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writes:please help! i am 18 years old and a few nights ago my friend set me up with a friend of hers from her work to go on a date, and we went out with her and her boyfriend as well. i had fun and i really like him and he seems really nice. however we didn't get to talk much because i was super shy, however though its not like he tried 100% to make conversation either. i think maybe he was a bit shy too.anyway, i thought after that he wouldn't ask me out again, but he did! he invited me around to his place the next night, as well as my friend and her boyfriend too. my friend said that the reason why he invited me around again was because he's interested in me but wants to get to know me better. but still i was yet again super shy. i'm pretty shy in general until i spend alot of time with people and relax a bit more. im sick of my shyness preventing me from having great new relationships with people because people seem to give up on my really easily because im hard work because i take time to open up etc...and i hate this.what do i do?i might be seeing him again soon...hopefully but this time i want to talk to him lots but i don't know how to beat my shyness.i think if i went out with just him and me (minus my friend and her bf) I would feel more comfortable cuz im really shy in groups, less shy when its just me and one other person. plus it was weird having my friend and her boyfriend pashing and making out and then there was me and him. weird.but im too shy again to tell my frined that i want to see him by myself..because what if im still super shy and she's not there to save me?
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reader, angelbbabe7490 +, writes (22 January 2007):
 my advice to you.. is that you just need to relax. you seem to be very tense around people that you dont know. strike up a conversation with him and show him your true self. Ask him how his day was, ask him questions to get to know him better and im sure he will ask you questions in return. By doing this you will be having fun and getting to know him at the same time. the more you learn about him the less awkward it will be for you.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (22 January 2007):
 I'm happy that you found someone you like that like you back.
As for being shy, you said that after you've met a person a couple of times, you'll be less shy. So how about the two of you go to the cinema, 'cause there you can be together, but without having to talk that much. And the really good thing is that after the movie, you can go fetch a bite to eat and talk about the movie.
Oh, and the best way to ensure that you don't have to drag along your friend and her boyfriend next time you go out is to call up Mr Wonderful and ask him out on a date. This would be good not only for you, but for him as well, so he will know that you like him enough to call him up and ask for the next date =)
Best of luck in your romantic endeavor!
/dragonette
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