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writes:Hi, im a 27 year old female, n i need some help here. I saw this guy in town last year, lets just say he made me stop in my tracks. i was involved in 5 year long distance relationship (a really bad one) but i managed to get out of it. anyway, there is something about him which gets my heart racing n all. i so regretted not saying hi to him the first time i saw him but I FOUND HIM again. i found me looking at him..but everytime i am near him, he seems to blush n go all mushy n keep his distance...should i ask him out first? perhaps call /sms ? i would definetely like to know him better, but dont want look desperate or something....! should i make the first move???
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2007): hey, thanks for the feedback...i liked the answers...let me add a lil bit more to this...when i saw him the first time, i cudnt help thinking abt him , i searched for him for abt two weeks, but then i thot i wud never see, i initially thot he was from overseas..anyway weh i saw him again , i was with a friend, according to her, he was watching me, so the next day she goes upto him on my behalf, watever she told me sounded too good to be true, n after we left the shop, i mentioned to her abt him for the first time. she said he followed us...i dont know why but when he near me, i get all different, nervous, mushy, ( i am a very confident person otherwise ) blushy, whew my heart sends this big bumping from inside..one question for guys...is it hard for u guys to ask women out? my friends say i hve a strong personality abt me, maybe it due to the work i do, i hve to dress smartly all the time ( i am the branch manager for the office i work for n i own a business ) would he be scared to ask me first? i just dont want to feel dump ...thats all. n i know if i dont try, i will regret this whole of my life....now???
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (13 February 2007):
 Hey there,
I liked Lisa's advice. I don't think you necessarily need to be so forward. If you want, you could simply say, "hey - haven't I seen you before? You look really familiar." - and that could start a conversation right there.
I think you need to bite the bullet and go for it with this guy. Otherwise, you'll always regret it and have those "what if's?" in the back of your head. GO for it! I've got your back all the way! How exciting that you've found a man who makes your heart race.
xxIndia
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reader, LISAG +, writes (13 February 2007):
 When you next bump into him, say these exact words or something along these lines "oh my god do you know what, for some strange reason I had a dream about you and me". Watch for his reaction, it will be one of two reactions. A). he'll say "oh really what was it all about?" in which case you'll imply you were kissing or something ..... B). he'll say "oh" and cut you off in your tracks.... in which case you cover up by laughing if off and saying "hey yeah weird the people you sometimes dream about for no reason whatsoever" B is not a good sign as you can guess. But hey at least you saved yourself some dignity - as i myself have had dreams about my boss (for instance) and I dont fancy him one bit !!!!! This tactic covers you either way and you find out on the sly if he likes you or not !!! Good luck !
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