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writes:Well it's been a month nearly since me and my bf of 10 months split. I'm 20, he's 22, and his reasons for ending it were contradictory to say the least. He told me his feelings for me hadn't changed but that he wasn't ready for a relationship this deep. Silly really, as i'm in my first year at uni and he is currently working full time, it's not as if we live in each others pockets, we used to see each other 4 times a week maybe. Basically, over the last month i've been getting serious mixed signals. He said he loved me in the relationship first and still protests that he does, which i find hard to believe, he says that i'm the girl who he wants to marry...and even after the split remains to stay the same. We both arranged to meet up about a week after the break up, just to prove to ourselves that we are adults about this. We had a great time, and as i've said to my friends it was almost like a first date but with history....he flirted with me, or what it seemed to be, and driving on the way home we chatted like normal. When he pulled up outside my house, he stared at me and asked if it was ok if he hugged me, i replied yeh, and we did...it was a really passionate hug, he stroked my back under my jacket and it felt more intimate than friendship. We hugged for a while and then he said i'm going to have to go, i said 'whats there to be scared of, whats done is done, i'm not gunna bite', he asked me for a kiss, and oh my god it was amazing...He told me he HAD to go at that point with his eyes watering...and i got out the car and he drove off. Less than 5 minutes later i got a text saying 'Im sorry but how good was that kiss' this text lead to me asking him if it was going to be our last of which he replied 'no it's not going to be'. I didn't see him over the weekend, and come monday i remembered he asked me to contact him, so i did. He seems reluctant to meet up with me again, and i asked why, he said it was because he felt we needed to get over one another. But i asked him to come round to my flat to talk about it, and let me ask him a few questions 'face to face'. he came and we talked. nothing more was cleared up....and we didn't have any contact from that monday till 2 weeks later.I saw him watching me in town on a night out, he watched me as i walked by and we had eye contact, he look very sheepish. A little later me and my friends left the club and walked past the smoking part of the neighbouring club, my friend said 'your ex is there and he is watching you', i didn't look and carried on walking...we crossed the road and a guy approached me and started to talk to me...we were just being friendly...and had walked about 200 yards when i heard a whistle, followed by my name, and then a tap on the shoulder... He had followed me down the street, he stared at me for what felt like an eternity and then said 'hi, how are you? did you see me then?' i replied 'yes, but i thought you were ignoring me, so i didn't want to bother you' he objected and said that he wasn't ignoring me, and that he has no reason too, since he is the one who broke up with me...he then held his arms out as if to ask for a hug...i gave him a reluctant one and withdrew...he started at me again and then said...'i...i...err gotta go back now, jus thought i'd come over and say hey' i said ok cya and with that he walked off...It is stressing me out that he CAME OVER TO ME...why is that. Later i saw him driving around a part of town he KNEW i would be in, coinsidence maybe...who knows..Does anybody have any suggestions...i'm really struggling..sorry about the lengthxxx
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reader, Beckah +, writes (28 January 2008):
Beckah is verified as being by the original poster of the question It has nothing to do with other relationships, he already said he wouldn't have another g/f or be interested in anyone but me in a long time...what do you suggest?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): Could it be that he doesn't want to be with you now because he knows he couldn't stay faithful?
It sounds like he still likes you a lot though.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Maybe , he regretted over what he said to you and wanted to be back on your good sides. He is a bit loony.
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