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writes:Hello all. So, I just got out of a really difficult relationship (still being yanked back and forth a bit, but I'm so done with his games) and my ex from over a year ago started contacting me randomly again. Some of my friends have said that he has been asking about me, he has out of the blue befriended my cousin who I am around a lot, and before school let out he would always look over at me strangely. I was still with crazy ex boyfriends though, so I ignored this.He broke up with me. He was camping with his dad and brother and dumped me through a text message. He wasn't insensitive though. It was like a three page message saying how sorry he was and how great I am. He even texted later that night to make sure I was okay.My concern is I don't want to get played. This guy dated my best friend briefly, fooled with another friend's heart, but kept me around longer than either of them. He texted me and did stuff on facebook. The first time texted me he even asked if I was seeing anyone. My friend seems to think I should start talking to him again, give him a chance because he was the last guy I dated who was actually accepting of me as a person (ie. my being bisexual and wanting to be a vegetarian, which my other exes were not okay with), didn't judge me, and legitimately tried to make me feel good about myself. These friends also hate crazy ex boyfriend and want to make him jealous and insane at all costs though soo... don't exactly trust them on that.I just want some outside opinions. He hasn't texted me in a week or so, which isn't really stressing me. I've got stuff to do, but my friend says he still is talking about me. Why would he break up with me, not really speak to me for an entire year, and then all of the sudden hop back into my life? Is he playing with me?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (22 July 2011):
 Not too sure what this guy's game is, but you are right to be worried - it doesnt add up really. If he is dating lots of girls and has dated a number of your friends, then clearly he is not comfortable with being single and likes to have lots of girls in his life to have fun with. He does sound like a player so I would say keep a safe distance from him for a while until you can really figure out what he is up to.
You are still involved with your other ex in some way, so really you should not be getting involved with anyone else until that is all sorted. You need to get him out of your life fully before you can move on, plus you need time to get over your ex so you dont end up in a rebound relationship. Take some time out from boys for a couple of months and just relax and enjoy yourself. If you keep jumping from one boy to another you will end up dragging your baggage from the last relationship into the next one and you will never be happy. Being single is hard at times, but it is neccessary to have a bit of time before you can go into a new relationship.
So what you need to do is sort the situation out with the most recent ex. Then take some time out to be single and not get yourself involved with anyone else. During this time maybe if you are texting the other ex from a year ago that would be fine, and you can then judge what his intentions really are. If he is not a player and really wants you back and cares about you - he will be attentive, he will contact you frequently, will want to spend time with you, he wont talk about sex or anything like that....so keep an eye on him and see how he behaves. If he doesnt text frequently and is off and on again with his attention towards you, then chances are there are other girls too and he is just playing you.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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