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writes:yesterday, for the first time in my life, I went on a blind date... strangest experience ever! I don't go on dates (let alone blind ones) all too often, but it actually wasn't half bad, something to cross off the bucket list xPA friend who waitresses at a local bar somehow got onto talking about me with a few of the regulars... it ended up that all the guys singled out one guy, who apparently has trouble meeting people, because I sounded a lot like him. they got him to write down his name, and my friend gave it to me that night (it was intended for me to add him on facebook - couldn't find him, but eventually he found me). so yea, out of the blue I start talking to this random guy and we seem to have a bit in common. we hadn't even been talking a day (we had started texting by then) and he asked if I wanted to go out for coffee; I agreed, but I was SO nervous I thought I was gonna back out lol... we set things up for the next day; he said he was stoked :P. the afternoon of the planned date he says "do you want to go to dinner?" again, I agreed. Around 7 he came to pick me up, we had dinner surprisingly with very few silent pauses (though he did answer his phone and talk a bit) and then he says that now I have to pick something to do. I didn't have a clue, so we drove around town and ended up back at my house playing video games till 1:30am (6 1/2hrs or so). we weren't alone the entire time, I had family show up and he met and hung out with them a bit. Throughout the date I couldn't really gauge how he felt... He flirted a little (grabbing my hands and bumping into be to mess up my game) but I couldn't be sure. We said goodnight, didn't kiss (didn't feel comfortable enough, I'm painfully shy with new people - if he would have tried I wouldn't have objected tho) and he told me to text him when I woke up. 10 minutes after I left I realized I hadn't said thanks, and that I had fun... I felt dumb, so I texted him and said just that. he replied that he had too, and asked if I was glad my friend had set us up. I said I was worried at first, but it was definitely worth it. he then asked what I honestly thought of him, and I said I liked him (plain and simple) he said he felt the same and was happy my family seemed to like him too, I replied "good! :)" and he asked "really?" "most definitely! :)" and all he sent was a massive smile ":D" we said goodnight (again), and now that's where things are at.I still can't tell 100% how things went/what he's thinking for sure, but what do y'all think? I suppose I'll find out for sure in the next little while (if there's another date type thing), but I'd like some sort of insight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe did end up hanging out, from 8 till 2. drove around, I met his dad & step mum, we picked up his gaming system and played that for a bit. my little brother and his buddy showed up, and this guy didn't talk so much around them, but when it was just us he did. we were sitting in his truck before he left, and he all of a sudden was just holding his arms open (for a hug) so we hugged, he left his game system and my house and said he'd be back and I should text him. 30 mins later I get a text "soooo do you still like me?" (the same sort of question he asked the first night, to me it does sound unsure/insecure ... ? like he just wants to check)
I texted him this morning, and he replied within seconds; I'm taking that as a good sign lol. I guess time will tell.
Thank you thus far for all your advice =)
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reader, MugenTj  +, writes (22 July 2011):
 That's ok. Just keep him posted on what you do (once every while), so that he knows that you think of him, no matter the distance. I would expect him to do almost the same. If not, make sure you ask how he is doing. Keep it consistent; don't overdo. Chill until you guys meet again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe texted me just after noon today, saying the normal "hey" "whats up" etc, within 15 minutes he asked if i was busy tonight and if i wanted to do something =) he got held up doing something with his boss, and he said "this is cutting into my hanging out time with you" lol. shitty part is, i leave in 2 days and will be gone 2+ weeks =(
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reader, Freeride_Biker  +, writes (21 July 2011):
He might be a little bit shy or not wanting to scare you away so that's why he didnt make a move too soon. But now he knows you enjoyed the time together then maybe he will gain some confidence. So hang out with him again and see how things go, if you enjoy spending time with someone that is the key to a great relationship. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2011): Sounds like it went really well and if your family like him that's usually a good sign. Let him do the chasing now won't you. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2011): I agree with Boonridge McPhalify, but I do think that, as a first - and, most of all, BLIND - date, it went extraordinary well. Good for you!
Be yourself and don't speculate too much. Keep us updated =)
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (21 July 2011):
 you need another date, not more speculation. take it from me, one date does not a relationship YET make.
meet him again and see if the feelings are the same.
good luck things seem good x
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reader, MugenTj +, writes (21 July 2011):
It seems that things went rather well. It's hard not to get over excited, but it's best to keep it cool. It takes lots of time to truly know a person; do not rush. Wait a few days and see if he will set something up (another date or outing). If not, then you should do that yourself (in case he happens to be shy too). Again, don't expect too much at this stage. Enjoy the ride!
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