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writes:I'm in my late 20s n never kissed a guy. I've waited my whole life for this one perfect kiss and guy and have well outpassed my expected timeframe. I really wanted to get this first before my next birthday, and before the new year. I talk to this guy about some issues ive been having, and i was going to ask him about this and if he might be able to help me and be the first guy i kiss.Do you think i should talk to him about it? how should i say it? need some advice about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2011): Wow .. I think thats really special that you have waited that long . I waited until I was 21 for my first kiss, and I wont regret it .yet the girl I did it with ended up cheating on me a few years later . I have no regrets. It was in NYC after a broadway show under where the ball drops . very special . I say go for it . he wont mind if you ask . as a matter of fact . I think he would appreciate it . good luck
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reader, aunt earnest +, writes (6 November 2011):
 I think that you should not talk to him about it and discuss it like adults, because you are still young and because kissing is fun and exciting and supposed to take you by surprise! Don't lead up to it with some stuffy discussion, just dive in and do it. Even if he rejects you (which probably won't happen just because you kissed him once), he is your first and most certainly not your last. Have fun and be spontaneous! Good luck! :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 November 2011):
 I wonder why you are only interested in the perfect kiss and man, and not interested in a relationship? Is it fear of rejection that has been holding you back for so long?
Do you think you have a better chance at just one kiss with him, than you have at an actual relationship with him?
Ask him out on a date instead and let the date end in a kiss. Much better than just wanting a meaningless kiss...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2011): I think that's really awkward to ask a guy if he'll be your first kiss, especially because it sounds like you want a first kiss just for the sake of having one, not because you want it to be really meaningful.
Why don't you continue to get to know this guy. If you like him and he likes you, it's likely that a kiss will be a totally natural thing.
You can't put timelines on things like this -- it only sets you up for failure and disappointment!
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reader, Htsn47 +, writes (6 November 2011):
 Is "this guy" you talk about a romantic interest, or are you just thinking of asking him to kiss you to "get it over with"? If he's someone you want to or are dating, then go for it.I think you are probably building this up too much in your mind. There is no "perfect kiss", and your first one will certainly not be perfect. Memorable is probably a better word, although I know people who claim not to remember their first. I certainly remember mine... but that's because I ran down my car battery getting up the courage and then had to get a jump start to get her home! :)If this really is the guy you want to kiss for the first time, and you trust him as apparently you do, I think just being honest is the best strategy. If someone came to me and explained they'd never been kissed and wanted me to be their first kiss, my heart would melt.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (6 November 2011):
 I know some people may tell you to just go ahead and tell him- get the first kiss over with. But I think your first kiss should be natural. There shouldn't be a discussion about it. Otherwise it may seem awkward, forced, or scripted. Sex on the other hand, if it's your first time, should definitely be talked about.
If you're interested in this guy, then just let him know. Find out his thoughts about you- and if they're not mutual, work on meeting someone new who may share your same feelings.
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