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writes:I am in need of serious help. Me and my English teacher, Mr?, get along really, really well. I feel comfortable talking to him about almost anything. He keeps me behind sometimes from class so we can chat and I often see him at my after school hockey club. Whenever there's a spare seat next to me in assembley, he'll sit there and make me laugh through out it. You get it, we're good friends.But here's where I need help. He left a note in my morning register for me to see him at break. So I did and, well, to cut a long story short, he sat right next to me - up close - and was telling me how special I was to him. Hitting on me. I really like him, but this was so unexpected I had a massive panic attack, ran out of the room in hysterical tears and collapsed down the stairs. Mr? hasn't been in school now for two and a bit weeks, but he's meant to be coming back next Tuesday and I don't know what to do. Please help. Now. Reply to this Question
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reader, jeni101lurv-u-xxx +, writes (12 September 2007):
jeni101lurv-u-xxx is verified as being by the original poster of the question A couple of months after I left his English set, I was moved back up. I started to think back over everything that had happened between us, things that I'd been trying to forget, and realised then that I didn't need anymore time to think.I am really grateful for all your advise, but my dicision is made. I don't really know what to say other than me and Mr? are now 'we'. And i couldn't be happier in all the world!x x x
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (27 June 2007):
I dont think anyone should encourage jeni101lurv-u-xxx to take this friendship with her teacher any further. If you seriously want to jeni, i think you should wait until you have completely left school and then tell him. I dont want you to fall victim, because its ok for him to say he will quit his job, but saying is diffrent than actually doing.
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reader, love-him +, writes (19 June 2007):
 Hia babii just read what you wrote and i think its a good thing you went to see him and this Mr? seems genuine enough to go as far as quitting his job but i honestly adivse you to wait until you are 16 to do anything.. maybe in both your hearts in secret you could be closer than friends but think about how it would be the end for his career.. i hope i help, mail me to keep me updated babe x x x x
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reader, jeni101lurv-u-xxx +, writes (19 June 2007):
jeni101lurv-u-xxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay, I took advise from some of you and went at break to see him. I would have gone in lunch, but break is only 15 minutes so if anything went wrong - for whatever reason - I had a better excuse for leaving.
I was so nervous as, despite trusting him, I was worried about his reactions and whether I'd just got myself into an unnessicary hype. Anyway, when I went in he acted so (well I know he is already an adult, but you'll know what I mean when I say) maturely and apologetic for his actions. He answered practically all my questions - he told me that he had always been attracted to me as a friend and general companion and that over the last couple of months I had really begun to dig a hole in his heart. He swore on his life to me that this had never happened to him before (pupil-teacher relationships), that it is entirely up to me what happens to us in the future (friends, closer or further away) and said that if I felt at all inclined, I could ask him to resign and he would.
That had me in shock. I said I wouldn't let him resign as before this happened we'd had a close friendship and trust that I wouldn't want to just let go of. But I also said that I had a lot of thinking to do and I'd rather we mentioned this no more until I'd gathered my thoughts. He agreed and when I saw him later on in the day he looked so much more relaxed and happy.
I would appreciate any further advise that you may have, but please remember that this isn't just him with feelings for me. I do have a very special place in my heart for Mr? and whatever happens I want us to remain friends and happy. Thanks.
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (17 June 2007):
Its really not your problem, hes an adult and he can look after himself and handle his own problems. You sholdnt feel like you should have to do anything and you shouldnt feel bad. If you attempt to talk to him for whatever reason, he may just try it on again. Stay away from him or you may be asking for trouble. You should tell someone, as he may try ''hitting'' on another girl whos even more vulnerable than you. Just stay away from, him.
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS +, writes (16 June 2007):
 sounds as if this man may be having some personal problems, and that might be as to why he acted so out of character. try and stay focused on your main subjects, something may have happened to someone in his family, this maybe why he is so weary and stressed out. Play it cool and if he does try anything again then you must tell your headmaster/mistress immediatly.
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reader, jeni101lurv-u-xxx +, writes (16 June 2007):
jeni101lurv-u-xxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your answers and support. It's really helped.I talked to my form tutor and, although without telling her what actually happened, managed to get myself moved down to the lower English group. I know this isn't the most honest thing to do, but I will deal with that in time.I was so scared about talking to or even just seeing him again, so I kind of avoided going anywhere near the staff or English rooms. But he passed me in the corridor later and made an attempt to smile, but I couldn't help but notice how tired and stressed and generally sad he looked.We haven't spoken yet, but just seeing him kind of like that is making me feel so awful and akward that I don't know what to do anymore.I was going to go and talk to him and try to get a straight answer, but now i'm really worried about him and can't bring myself to do it. Help.
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS +, writes (13 June 2007):
This is serious, he must have have acted so out of character to bring you to tears and have a panic attack. but lets see how he acts when he comes back, if hes the same flity playful self and this makes you feel uncomfortable then i would seriously advice you telling someone about this, because this man has a job role in which the teach his students and THATS IT! dont be worried about telling someone either, because just think if he knows he can get away with tlaking to you in such a manner then he might take things furthur and ask you to stay behind one lesson and take advantage of you. but id reccomend you wait until this man has come back from his 'vacation' and see how he acts towards you. Even if you dont feel like telling someone about the incident, then tell mr? about how you feel and he might get a clue and leave you alone before you can do some real damage to his career. Take Care, hope this helps. x
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (11 June 2007):
Avoid being alone with this teacher, and tell a parents and have them meet up with the school head master or something. He may have done this to other girls and got away with it. Althought you like him and you get on well, he may be trying to you. Its best to tell someone as soon as possible.
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reader, love-him +, writes (10 June 2007):
Hey chick i would advise you to go talk to someone, a teacher, friend, adult.. anyone who you trust, even if this happens to be nothin, he needs to know you are feeling this way and needs 2 learn to back off. hope i helped, mail me if u wanna talk x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2007): Babe, you need to talk to someone about this. The best thing to do would be to tell your mom or dad, or both of them, and explain exactly what you told us here, you didnt lead hom on or anything, but he came on to you and you were upset by that. They will understand, I promise. This is sexual harrassment and its illegal. Then your parents can speak to the school about it. This way more notice will be taken, and it is being delt with propperly. You can also ask to be switched classes so you don't have any classes with him, and tell your close frinds what happened and never be alone with this guy. By the sounds of things he has major boundary issues, and you need to be careful!I hope this works out, you can msg me if you want, good luck hun!!
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (10 June 2007):
 If you are scared by his ways, you need to tell someone.
Go to your tutor or another teacher you trust and tell them.
This ain't allowed.. by the sounds of things he's just acting all pally with you to get closer to you.
You need to tell someone.
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