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writes:Hey all and first off, thanks for taking the time to review my situation. So this started a little under a month ago, me and this woman I met through the internet have been chatting 24/7 every day. Met up a couple times and hit it off. Things were amazing, never had a fight or disagreement. Saturday things were going as normal. I was headed to the gym, she was giving me kissy emojis and telling me to have a good workout. So I get out of the gym, go to call her and straight to voicemail. Go to text her, not delivered. Go to send her a message on Facebook, profile can't be found. It is like she disappeared off the face of the Earth. She mentioned that someone earlier that day that wasn't friends with her on Facebook was trying to call her or message her on there but she never acknowledged them.It has been 5 days now since that, and I even had a friend text her to tell her that I hoped she was ok and I had no idea what happened to her, then he got blocked. The only thing I can think of is whoever was trying to reach her on Facebook had nasty things to say about me and maybe she believed them without confronting me first.I feel like if I don't act then she is just gonna move on and whatever was said is just gonna linger in her head and make her feel like the block was justified. I have a jealous ex and I asked her about it but she says she doesn't know anything about the situation (who knows how true that is). Because it was publicly known by some that we were dating.I am reaching out to this community to see what my next plan of action should be. Should I wait and roll the dice and maybe she won't continue to hate me and want to talk? Should I call her at work and ask her what I did? I just don't want to come off as creepy, but I just don't want to lose her. I just want to know what it was that caused this because I can't even fathom what would cause the mood shift. I don't want to just walk away because I'm blocked and not fight for her when I know we compliment each other so well and it is so hard to find someone like her. Please give me your opinions on the matter, and thanks again for your time.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (17 August 2021):
Take a hint man! You're on the verge of becoming a stalker.
Don't obsess over why someone breaks up with you, you already know the answer: you weren't compatible. That's all you need to know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2021): "The only thing I can think of is whoever was trying to reach her on Facebook had nasty things to say about me"Just why would you think that? Is there something that we should know that you've done?In the first 2/5th of your post, I'd have told you that your problem is that you did not see it coming. That she planned this, and you are not the first, nor the last to whom she does this.In the second 3/5th of your post though, out of the blue you get suspicious of a totally unknown entity, as in, you get a bit vague about some stranger messaging her on Facebook, and you get suspicious of some (according to you) jealous, ex-girlfriend. That, combined with the earlier "is there something we should know?" feels like, are you the kind of guy who, like me, can tend to get so wrapped up in his own head that... at some point, some women just suddenly bolt.So, is it a mix of a bit of both?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 August 2021):
 Do NOT call her at work.
She has made the choice to block you (for whatever reason) and all you CAN do is respect it. I know it feels horrible when someone CHOOSES to cut you off with no explanation or reason but THAT IS THEIR CHOICE.
If she chose to listen to someone else (someone she doesn't know, like your ex or whomever) and BELIEVE them over you, then what is the point? Whatever was said to her will forever taint your relationship because SHE let it.
You might NEVER know what happened. That is reality.
Sometimes you can't FIX things, sometimes you don't get the answer you want or any answer.
While you thought she was a great fit, SHE obviously doesn't think that anymore. OR she would have given you the courtesy of telling you what happened or that it's over.
If you "fight" for her - all you do is considered harassment. Which is WHY you do not call her at work. Or have others calling her. YOU leave her alone.
You say you didn't DO anything to make this happen so while it feels weird and hurtful, YOU can now walk away too. You kind of have to.
And if I were you I'd lick down YOUR social media so ANY exes of yours can't access it in the future.
I know that wasn't what you wanted to hear but you need to ACCEPT that this is the CHOICE she has made. To cut you off.
Sorry. Time to move on.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (15 August 2021):
 She has blocked you, i would not even bother trying to investigate the reasons why.
She has either just lost interest or met someone that she prefers more than you, and never had the courtesy to be up front and tell you.
Typical internet dating issues, people either ghosting you, or dropping off the face of the earth.
I'm afraid you will just have to suck it up and move on. Plenty more fish in the sea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2021): If you've been blocked, don't bother pursuing it any further. She didn't even bother to give you the courtesy of a warning or explanation. Obviously, she has lost interest; whether she was warned by your ex, or just met somebody else she likes better.
If you're still dealing with a jealous ex, she doesn't need the drama. I don't blame her, I'd jet too!
Don't sweat-it, move on.
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reader, Tinacandida +, writes (14 August 2021):
 Call her at work. You need an answer so that you can at least try to see if someone has been causing trouble for you. If she doesnt talk to you tgere then youd have to just let it go. There could be other reasons why shes blicked you, she may have got an ex back and cant face you or indeed man other reasons. Woukd your jealous ex be capable of spreading rumours to her? Do some searching around and see.
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