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writes:I am scared that my boyfriend (18M) is gonna get bored of me (16F) before telling abt my problem we do a long-distance relationship we call/ft pretty much everyday. my boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months and we start school very soon we go to different schools of course and I am scared that he is going to lose interest in me when school starts, I am not afraid of him cheating on me because I don't think that he will ever cheat on me but I am scared that he is gonna be busy with college and we are gonna talk less and less and he is gonna get bored of me? Reply to this Question
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reader, kenny +, writes (16 August 2021):
 I know its hard, but you should stop living in fear of he may lose interest in you or not. Life is to short for worry's like this, especially at your tender age.
Things may very well change, he may get get busy with studies, as will you also.
Just live for the moment, stop worrying, and cross that bridge when you come to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2021): WiseowlE is right. If you are stressed about this then long distance is not for you. Not worth all of the hassle, waits, worry for what you might get out of it. Better to find a local person. But there again you might be the sort who is going to be stressed whoever you are with and whatever sort of relationship it is, because you are a worrier and lack confidence. In which case you need therapy to change so that people find you attractive and this does not put them off. Needy women lose men quickly and then replace them and then lose the next one. Then they are silly enough to think oh dear that guy dumped me I was right to worry, when it was their worrying and constant need for reassurance that caused him to dump them.
To be honest long distance relationships nowadays are often no more than the guy wanting sexy chat or skype and not relationships at all. The girl just kids herself it is a relationship. Others can be one person sending the other presents and money so that they can kid themselves they have a partner when in reality they are just being milked and the other person is doing this to a dozen other people as well as them.
It takes more than turning on your computer and being in contact with someone for it to be a relationship.
I have a very close friend I am regularly in contact with. We get on great, we have loads in common, we care, but we would never say it is a relationship, it is just friendship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2021): He won't necessarily lose interest; but he might get caught-up in his studies, and enjoying real-time social-activities being a college-freshman.
LDR's are hard enough, but you're two teenagers; and basically conducting your relationship between devices. If you're already stressed about it; maybe you're not cutout for long-distance relationships. You really need to make some friends, socialize, date locally (when pandemic restrictions allow); and enjoy being young and carefree.
It's inevitable you'll both be busy, and it's likely you'll both be meeting other people; while struggling to keep in-touch. You're only 16 to-boot! How are you going to stay focused on your own schoolwork, if you're worried about him?
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reader, Tinacandida +, writes (14 August 2021):
 You are both young. Just enjoy your conversations and see how it goes. At your age you will meet many different people. Ling distance relationships can work but they can be very difficult to maintain. Keep your options ooen, im sure he will do the same. If its meant to be then distance will be over come.
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