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writes: i am a 16 year old guy.. i broke up with my girlfreind 4 months ago.. however, i still like her alot.. the reason for break up was studies.. she wanted to concentrate on it..i got to this girl mary just a few days ago.. she is quite pretty and fun.. we were fine until she text me asking to be my stead.. i was taken back.. now she texts me every morning and night.. she acts like she is my girlfriend..i also got to know this girl jane about 1 month ago.. we recently met again and she told me she has feelings for me.. wat should i do?? hu should i go for?? or should i wait for my ex??thanks..
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2006): Fairyangle is is right and I concur with her advice. Get out there and date. Have fun and enjoy being a happy 16 year old guy. Dating can help to build self-esteem, can help teens figure out who they are and can teach social skills so I view dating as a form of shopping around, especially at your age. It's does not necessarily become 'exclusivity'. I encourage abstinence because if you are dating for fun, a sad fact of nature is that sexual intimacy creates emotional intimacy: even if the parties to the relationship say "it’s just for fun." In reality, it isn’t. Each romantic relationship takes something from a person’s heart, and each relationship broken, leaves a scar. Teen boys do get hurt, but this seems more predominant with teen girls. So I suggest you enjoy the company of interested girls, but always stay real and honest. Understand any type of healthy relationship, including friendships, are based on trust, respect and caring not to cause pain to others. Being able to identify and be in healthy dating relationships is a very important skill for young people to learn.
Friendships are important. Being too wrapped up in the dating scene can prevent a person from developing real friendships, which will be with him or her for life. Additionally, getting caught up in the dating scene displaces more important things. These years are the final staging grounds for independent adulthood. A young person like yourself, who is much too preoccupied with one romantic relationship after another is going to miss out on a lot of the education, as well as on the maturity that comes from intellectual effort. Date and have fun, just remember, you have a future ahead of you. Keep at your studies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2006): I am 15 and I just came out of a similar situation.You have to ask yourself who do you really care about more.You don't have to be really serios now because we are still young but one of them u r going to care about more.You also will have to explain to all the girls where you stand with them because if you dont it could cause a problem in the future.
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (7 January 2006):
 Hey, Sweetie, you dont need to be going steady with anybody right now, you are only 16... play the field now while you are young, be friends with all the girls who are giving you attention, and just enjoy being 16.
Trust me, there will be plenty of time for serious relationships when you are older, but for now, concerntrate on your own studies just like your Ex... I think she has the right idea. Your future depends on the foundation you lay out for yourself now, and getting into serious relationships with girls is not going to enhance your future at all.
So Good Luck, study hard, have some fun and be happy.
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reader, x Chrissy x +, writes (7 January 2006):
 hey,
It seems like you have a real probelem. First of all you have to decide in your mind who you like better and from the letter it seems that your first girlfriend is much more close to you and it is very normal for you to have a break during the stress of studies,and if she sys that she has feelings for you then it seems to me that your feelings for her still have'nt faided.
I think that it is better if you talk to Mary and explain to her the situation, and if you are really thinking of going out with her then i think that you should start of by taking it slowly and build your relationship with her.
Good Luck.
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