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writes: I am stuck between two guys as well :S I have been seeing a former co-worker for the past few months and I really enjoy being with him except at first he was really disapointing becuse he never wanted to make plans and he always seemed to be busy. He never showed that he really cared for me but we had some crazy chemestry when we were together. Since I was not comited to him in any way I decided I would meet up with a guy I had been talking to online (who had a gf and is from switzerland visiting a province on the other side of the country as me). I went to visit him for 6 days during the holidays and I really enjoyed every minute of it.We had no intentions of hooking up but things just seemed to happen. He showed me soo much and was the sweetest guy I have ever met and I know my family would be proud of me to take home such a good guy. I told him that I would be comitted to him becuase I felt that the other guy didn't really care for me and that we conected in a special way.So me and my switzerland guy are planning to make things work long distance.Now I am home and well my former coworker has been e-mailing me and calling me and showing soo much interest and telling me he has missed me and I told him about my delema and well....he says he wants to be with me and that I have to decide.I dunno if I should choose the swis guy that treats me like a queen and say too little too late to the other or.....to choose the one that lives in the same city as me and of whom I have great chemestry with.who should I pick? I am soo lost! :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): I would say date both, and choose from there, or non at all. One lives in Swis, how much can you trust him? How often will you see him? The human body has needs, will both be truly faithful? Ask yourself that first! He has a gf, what's to say he won't do the same to you ("hook" up with another chick in a another country, or his gf)? Yea guys like a chase, so let your coworker chase you, keep it mysterious, and continue to date him b/c he's in the same city. Bottom Line: YOU'RE NOT COMMITTED. So with that, date more. Test the waters. That's what I did, I dated several times for 5 years, and I do NOT regret it. In fact I found my soulmate throughout it all, and when I was ready, I settled. You're not ready to settle, because if you were you would've already chosen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2006): he he he, thats situation completely. if the swis dude is still dating his girlfriend, then run far from him. if they have talked things over and its officially over, then go for him. really depends on how much you can trust him. as of the co-worker, men are complex sometimes, they kinda go on the chase when they realise another man is on the pic, so what happens when he is done chasing you? galfriend, he will move on to the next gal to chase. Swis man it is, or non at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2006): hahaha whoever does the editing called him a swede not me lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2006): First thing...you said he was a swede. Swede's are from Sweden. The Swiss are from Switzerland. Now that's over, I would say, go for the Swiss dude. Sounds a million times better than the other dude.
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reader, aunt_bec! +, writes (7 January 2006):
 This was like reading a page out of my own diary i've had this situation myself (apart from the guy being swiss).
For a start the guy from switzerland who treats you like a queen has a girlfriend and if the guilt from stealing her boyfriend doesnt put you off just think if hes cheated on her whats stopping him cheating on you, plus long distance relationships 9 times out of 10 dont work.
My advice would be to pick the former co-worker the rocky start could have been him playing hard to get. The most important thing is hes interested, lives close and come on how many guys would give you time to choose?
My boyfriend was exactly the same as your former co-worker and its the happiest relationship ive had and even though we had a rocky start i wouldnt change him for the world.
But at the end of the day look inside yourself and follow your heart it will lead you in the right direction.
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