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writes:Ermm, hi, kay, here's the problem. My best friend, el, told me that at this age we 're supposed to like boys. But, I still sort of hate them. I mean, is it even normal to like boys. I've not even had my first crush or anything like that. Then, our teacher said that we have some sort of prom at the end of this year with our affiliated school (this is a girls' school), I think it's soooo....EWWWWW. I don't want to dance with a boy. El said that its a waste of my good looks (or so she claims...)And then, there's like this whole bunch of our affiliated school boys started asking me if I could go to the dance with them and they are irritating me by a lot. El keeps saying if I don't quickly get rid of them by accepting one of the invitations, she'll get angry. But seriously, I still don't like boys (not that I'm gay) Can anyone advice me how to turn these boys off without accepting invitations, declining or doing repulsive things to chase them away? (I can't do those since I'm part of the student council and the teachers will go..._)Thanks in advance!!!P.s. El is not her real name though
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 April 2011):
 Good girl, that's the spirit : stiff upper lip and think of sushi !:) You got El off your back, and your participation to the dance will help you networking- not that bad after all.
No, people are not supposed to laugh at anything you say, when they do it means they are nervous, or, they like you ( laughing at all your lines is a common form of flattery , more often used, though, by girls toward boys ).
But don't panic- ...after all, it's just an evening !
Good luck !
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reader, MilkPudding +, writes (11 April 2011):
MilkPudding is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much for all your advice!!! I do what I could and chose this Teddy bear- like person to go with me to the dance. El has stop pestering me. I don't think Im ever going to like any boys but oh well, it'll be good to start garnering votes for the next student council election. Emm, one more question, is it normal for boys to laugh at every single thing a girl says, cause to me, it's creepy. Sushii.....I hope they have this at the dance...
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (10 April 2011):
This was a cute and refreshing post. We get so many from girls your age that say " I want to have a baby " or " I had sex while I was drunk " or " my bf left me, my life is over " that's just so nice to hear from a girl whose life is not going topsy turvy because of some young,pimply heartbreaker. :)So boys are EEEWWWW, uh ? lol, just give your hormones time to catch up with you, I am pretty sure that in a few months, maybe a year, you'll change your mind. But, what do you do in the meantime ? I'd say, go to the dance. Challenge yourself, it's good to stretch our comfort zone, and this is a chance to develop your social skills . After all, you'll have to deal with men all your life, whether you like them or not, so might as well starting knowing them a bit. And it may be fun. You can never tell. Don't be afraid to try new things. I was afraid of horses, I thought they were dangerous and stinky, I was really pressured into try riding one and... I had a great time,it was fantastic ! You don't have to flirt with boys or kiss them or do anything. And, it's just one night, even if you should not enjoy yourself that much, it's not the end of the world. So I would take El's advice and pick the least irritating and eeeewww of the boys and accept his invitation. You never know...Have fun !
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 "El" is being stupid. If you're not ready or unwilling to hang out with boys, that is your choice. At some point in your life, you either will be ready or you won't be interested. Not everyone is El, and you might feel you have better things to do. I never went to one dance except for my senior prom, and even then I went with my gay best friend, I wasn't interested in the guys at my school AT ALL and it was only until college that I found people I liked enough to actually pursue. i think El says she'll be mad because she wants back up, support because she doesn't want to be alone in case it is awkward with this boy, or maybe she wants to gossip about the boys, something like that, but it's not because she's looking out for your self-interest. respect your own biological clock, it's not your time yet, and there's no rush to get there. So, I mean, if I were you maybe I'd say I really am just not interested, but I want you to have fun, so I'll help you get ready, maybe offer to do her makeup for her or something? and then see her off, go home, and call her the next day when you see her in school, ask her how it went. hopefully that'll cover your bases. if she still is angry about your choice, she'll either get over it after a couple of days, or she's just a very immature person that you probably don't need bullying you anyway.
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