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writes:Ive had enough of meeting men who I really fall for and then they dont contact me. Theres been a couple of guys over the past 2 months who Ive met whilst out with friends. At the time they seem to be really interested in me, we swap numbers and text or ring a few times. Then they just stop. I dont know what I do wrong but it does upset me, I feel that ive done something or they may have heard sumthing that put them off me but I dont know what!!How can i stop this happening? And how can I stop wearing my heart on my sleeve?Please help.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 I don't think I can really know why these guys stop calling you. I also think that YummyMummy's and NuVu's posts are just fine. I just would add something: check what you're doing wrong. Don't just play hard to get; if you work hard to get someone, and then find she's not who you expected, well, the interest wanes.
My guess is, you need love. And you make mistakes to get it. If you stay calm and take things one at a time, someone will see the real you and he'll be a keeper.
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reader, NuVu  +, writes (17 July 2007):
Think about why you are wearing your heart on your sleeve. I mean why are you so suddenly so interested in someone you just met? Anyone can be charming out with friends, but these guys really haven't done anything to deserve a place in your heart. The fact that you're putting so much emotional energy into a new relationship is what i would guess is turning guys off. Now i hate the idea of playing games, but the truth is that men need to be chasinging a little to stay interested, especially in the start. Make your standards higher, and make these guys work a little harder to win you. Don't we all prize those things we have to work hard to get? But its a delicate balance. Play to hard to get and he's lose interest. Play to easy to get he'll lose interest. Find the right balance.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (17 July 2007):
 I agree with flower_girl. Play hard to get a little more. Let guys come running to you. They love having to fight for what they want.
Don't seem to be to needy to quickly. I found guys don't like you texting them too much when you first meet.
I don't think you can stop wearing your heart on your sleeve. I think that is a part of who you are. Just try and hold a little bit back next time and see how it goes.
xxxxxx
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reader, flower girl +, writes (17 July 2007):
 Maybe you are being abit over powering with them and you should try playing a little hard to get.
Just a suggestion.
Take care.xx.
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