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writes:just wana ask if a girl that is fat..., well they call me chubby, flat nose, w/ big legs...can possibly have a chance to have a boyfriend? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): I'm so sorry people are so insensitive.I like watching the show called the biggest loser bacause it teaches me how to take care of my body.Eating right and excersising. A healthy body is a beautiful body.
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reader, LaurennAlice  +, writes (13 December 2009):
Ive been through EXACTLY what you have and, after everything my counciler said, there were two things that really sunk in:
the first thing was "confidence is key, when you feel confident it shows! and smile, its the first thing people like about you"
and the second was "you are not alone with these feelings"
when she said that, i tried to have a positive attitude towards my appearance and once that happened, people would notice me and people that wouldnt usually talk to me at school did, and all because i learnthow to be confident and less shy (:
i know how you feel sweetheart and lastly, of course ou can get a boyfriend !! good things take time (:
i really do hope what ive said helps you, sometimes positive words are all people need, im sure youre beautiful (:
my friends would always say i am, and family, but everyone else would say im ugly, and i learnt to block out what other people would say.
cheer up (:
love laurenn xxx
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reader, teeca  +, writes (11 January 2009):
confidence is the key to all things in life that you wasnt to achieve, all i can say is trust and love yourself, because selfesteem and self respect start with self. all other things will fall into place no matter what your problem is its a gurantee that theres someone for everyone.
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reader, Gorgeous' +, writes (10 January 2009):
Everybody has different tastes.. some people find tall and slim girls attractive others like short and overweight girls, sometimes people dont care aslong as the girl has a great personality. I guess the point im trying to make is everybody has someone out there that will love them for them. If your happy then others will see that your happy and will want to be around you. Someone will find you absolutley gorgeous, never put yourself down babes xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2009): Just today my friend and I were talking about some girls we know that are very heavy, but still attractive. They're attractive because they feel good about themselves the way they are, so they wear nice clothes, put on makeup, and do their nails and hair. Then they walk around like they're the prettiest girl in the room. And they all have boyfriends - cute boyfriends!
The people making fun of you should be ashamed, but a lot of young people aren't aware that the way they treat others may have hurtful or lasting impact. Please do not listen to what they say, and love yourself the way you are. Know that you have something to offer that goes beyond looks. Present yourself to others with pride. We are all unique and lovely in our own way, and good looks don't last forever but inner beauty is something you will always have.
Having said this, if your weight bothers you beyond what others say, you could lose some. If you cultivate a healthy way of eating and do some exercise, your weight will become more normal, so you may want to try this. Don't try to "diet", just learn to eat healthy foods and drink lots of water.
Whether you lose weight or not, you WILL be able to have a boyfriend. Be happy and friendly to others and it will happen when you least expect it!
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (10 January 2009):
 Oops! It posted twice.
Either that, or I'm experiencing double vision.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (10 January 2009):
Everybody has physical flaws, I'm afraid. The good news is that you can do something about the things you don't like, and that others probably see you in a different light. You're your own worst critic.
What may keep you from attracting a guy is your lack of confidence. It's normal for teenagers to feel awkward but it sucks to have low self esteem, which I am sensing is a problem.
Try a sport that you enjoy. May I suggest martial arts? Shop around for schools where you live and find a good master. I um, have a "friend" who was overweight, and depressed, and tried karate, and my I mean my "friend's" life changed within weeks. It would not only help if you would like to lose a couple pounds, but it changes the way you see yourself and the world. Plus, sparring is lots of fun.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (10 January 2009):
Everybody has physical flaws, I'm afraid. The good news is that you can do something about the things you don't like, and that others probably see you in a different light. You're your own worst critic.
What may keep you from attracting a guy is your lack of confidence. It's normal for teenagers to feel awkward but it sucks to have low self esteem, which I am sensing is a problem.
Try a sport that you enjoy. May I suggest martial arts? Shop around for schools where you live and find a good master. I um, have a "friend" who was overweight, and depressed, and tried karate, and my I mean my "friend's" life changed within weeks. It would not only help if you would like to lose a couple pounds, but it changes the way you see yourself and the world. Plus, sparring is lots of fun.
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reader, nickie123 +, writes (10 January 2009):
 i have the same problem but i am not fat i am just really shy but we have the same problem we haven't got a boyfriend if you keep on worrying about you not having a relationship it just won't happen love yourself fist until somebody loves you first and once you do that you would have oneyou have boyfriends hoped i helped :)i mean when i did that i got a boyfriend and he treats me great because i love myself
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reader, xTeenGirlx +, writes (10 January 2009):
 Yes, you do have a chance.
This will be a short answer, but im the same.
I wouldnt call myself obese, but im nowhere near skinny either.
Im chubby/fat and I have big legs too.
Its okay though! Im 16, and I had my first boyfriend in May 2008. It didn't work out and im now single but he saw me for me! He didn't care about what I looked like.
You will find the right guy, its all about patience.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (10 January 2009):
 Who are "they"? you family or friend? or people who dont matter at school or work?
many people have big ego's but low self esteem, that means they thinky they are brilliant but they dont feel brilliant. to feel better about themselves to match their ideas about themselves they try to elevate themselves by bringing those around them down with insults and critisism. this is why "they" are being nasty to you.
do not pay attention to them there are many different people in life you will meet and some of them will be attracted to you and others not. you have to learn to read the signs if you want to start a relationship. but before you do that you have to erase from your mind negative beliefs about yourself that nasty people put into your mind. otherwise you will not understand what people's reactions mean and you might miss opportunities for love.
LEARN TO SEE THE GOOD IN YOURSELF!
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reader, planepocket +, writes (10 January 2009):
Yes.My guess is that someone already likes you.Just look around and you might notice them looking at you.
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (10 January 2009):
 Fat or slim, if the right person comes along, you will be happy.
Unfortunately, there are shallow people who feel the need to hurt other people's feelings.
The truth is is that they feel insecure themselves (althought the reason may not be apparent), and to compensate for their self hate, they try to distract their lives with criticizing others. The easiest target is to pick on someone's hate.
Your situation has a solution, you can lose the weight but their problem might be more terminal. I feel sorry for them as they may never change but you can.
As to being fat, well most curvy people I know are quite good looking, have amazing eyes or other features.
Your are young, the weight may drop easier than you think. If you want to do it, But do it for You, not for anyone else.
Try drinking plenty of cold water (2 litres per day outside meals), at least 30 minutes exercise every day and follow a healthy diets (5/6 meals per day but small portions, avoid fat/sugar, eat more fruit and veg). Most important, enjoy the experience to know that you are becoming who you want to be, avoid feeling stressed, take control of what you can do in your life. Not easy I know but practice makes perfect.
As time goes on, inner beauty is what is matters really. Loosing weight is not just about physical apparence but about the self esteem boost which you desperately need to heal the wound in your heart.
The fact that you call yourself chubbygurl says a lot about what you think of yourself. Do not allow yourself to call you fat. You are much more than that!
Think of a name which says something about your personality, positive and beautiful as you deserve it.
As to the flat nose, well celebrities pay a fortunate to get their nose trimmed off when they have long nose, so do not worry about that.
As to the long legs, personally, this is an atribute, models are famous for their long legs, so is positive.
Before you find someone to love you, you need to love yourself, so start this journey today!
Lots of hugs and smiles
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