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writes:I've been In a relationship for a year now and it's wonderful. We are average, happy, fight over the silly things, kiss and makeup over nothing. In all honesty it's great...But I'm in love with two men. My boyfriend "Steve" and my best guy friend "Daniel". I've known Daniel for years and I completely fell head over heels for him about a year and a half ago. He had been going through a messy break up and I was his shoulder, but we grew closer over the weeks. One night, before he left I had fallen asleep during a movie marathon and he kissed me. It woke me up, but I didn't want embarrass him do I kept my eyes shut. I now think it was the official goodbye kiss, because they got back together right after. It took me months to just get my head straight after that, but Steve really helped me out on that, even if he doesnt know that we started dating while I was still broken up about Daniel. Now I know I love him, but there is barrier we have and I know it's because of Daniel. Daniel asked me to meet him for drinks the other night, and we talked and good conversation, I held a conversation with him and I can barely do that with Steve at times. I feel like Steve's my heart and Daniel's my brains. I told Daniel how I felt and he admitted to his feelings for me, then told me he was proposing to her. I'm moving on, but it hurts. I have Steve, I love Steve, but Its not fair to him that I'm stuck feeling this way. What if it never passes?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 May 2012):
 These feelings won't pass till you leave Steve and find a man you truly love.... I'm not saying you don't love Steve but perhaps you don't love him "the right way" or you don't "loe him enough"
It's NOT fair to Steve to stay with him if you don't tell him how you feel. It's possible if he knows and he loves you he will stay knowing how you feel. It's probable he will want to end it and that's ok. It's probably best that you end it with Steve because you be settling for him without realizing it and one day you will meet someone that does for you what Daniel did.... and then what? You'll be here posting about wanting to have an affair.....
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reader, Beatriceandjohn  +, writes (26 May 2012):
What I really think is you are not in love with any of the two otherwise you would only need one of them who would fulfill you in every way... Leave both of them cause in the long run its going to destroy the three of you... Good luck
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (25 May 2012):
 My namesake said he was proposing to the other woman. Any feelings in his regard are doomed. He was very clear.
Now, if you don't really click with Steve, leave him.
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