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writes:I need serious help with my mixed emotions. I split from my married man just a few days ago- he betrayed me in the most unforgivable way and it is 100% clear to me that there is no going back. However, he has gone on holiday today for a week with the wife and children and i am in peices. I cant understand why im hurting so badly because i know that he is bad news. I know that he is gone out of my life. I know i will never want him back, but for some reason him going on holiday is ripping my heart out. How do i get through this week without thinking about him being all happy in a nice hot country while im hete alone and in pain?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2011): You got involved with him so it's natural to hurt, but what about his wife, how do you think she would feel being betrayed? Because after all, he married her.
Try and find something to occupy your mind and time, and keep away from married men is my advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2011): Instead of taking it easy on yourself. Remind yourself that this pain you're experiencing, you deserve. Triple that and that is what his wife would be feeling if she had known her husband was playing around. Sorry, but you've gotten what you asked for getting involved with someone else's life partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2011): Betrayed by a betrayer! Go figure. You are in pieces for a lot of reasons and not just him. You selected a man who you KNEW was bad news and that is called self-sabotage. Are you so very disappointed in him or yourself? Are you so much disappointed in how HE hurt you or how YOU hurt yourself? There is nothing worse than the pain we inflict upon ourselves. Are you or have you been self-destructive in other areas of you life? Is this a pattern? In any event, I think you should head off into some counseling and seek honest answer and find solutions as to your self-destructive tendencies. There is nothing worse than standing by and watching another person push the self-destruct button time and again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2011): i'm sorry to say this, but him going away with his wife and children isn't betraying you. he made vows to his wife, and his children are his flesh and blood. he was betraying his wife by being with you. he committed adultery. i'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but you should find a nice, single guy.
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (29 May 2011):
 You can get through the week, by planning a fantastic future without this person in it. Think of all the things that you didn't get out of the relationship, things that you wanted and needed, but that he couldn't do for you because he is someone's husband. Think about the how you deserve so much more from life than you have been getting. Really think hard about the life that you want to be living, and start making plans to get that life. Start something new, take up jogging, or join a gym, get fit and healthy. Start looking after yourself. You will get there, and a week is only seven days. It will pass. xx
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reader, kylieekristina  +, writes (29 May 2011):
 Ways to not go crazy this week; Call all of your girlfriends and close family members and make some plans. Stay busy busy busy!! Think about all the lies he's feeding that poor woman, and be thankful that you are not her. Now that you have let him go the creep that he is, hes bound to find another girl to see him on the side. Your better than being number 2!! You deserve to be number one and remind yourself of that this week especially. Pamper yourself, get a new hair style, go tanning, get your toes done, whatever makes you feel good. You now have extra energy to spend on what matters....YOU!!Remember; If your holding on tight to a one dollar bill, there is no room for a hundred dollar bill. Now that you have let that one dollar bill go.....you have an open hand for a hundred dollar bill.
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