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Embarrassed to tell my boyfriend about my problems?

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Question - (28 May 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 29 May 2011)
A female Australia age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hey, I was wondering if anyone could tell me how I get over my shyness in telling my boyfriend about issues/stress in my life.

We have a habit of not telling each other our problems, because we're both very private by nature, and it leaves me feeling very alone because I have no one to confide in. The relationship is also long distance.

When I do tell him a little, he doesn't know how to comfort me that well because I'm his first girlfriend and he's introverted by nature. It ends up feeling extremely awkward, and I feel shy to show him my flaws/weaknesses. The topic usually changes.

His life is very stable compared to mine, so he doesnt have much to confide in me. So it feels unbalanced when I tell him my issues. I've talked to him about it a bit, but its still awkward.

He cares about me, but I'd really like to be comforted by him more.Any suggestions on how to fix this?

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A female reader, cupidus Canada +, writes (29 May 2011):

cupidus agony auntVulnerability

Communicate that you feel the need to discuss your problems.

You could even ask him for help with all or any. He'll probably be more than supportive because guys in general enjoy problem solving.

We're all not perfect, nor is he.

You could just come right out and say something too.

"gee, my day sucked, you wouldn't believe me if I told you."

and stop there and see if he asks what happened.

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A female reader, hopelessromantic15 United States +, writes (29 May 2011):

When you tell him about your life issues, end it with a question "Ever had that happen to you?" "Isn't that weird?" "doesn't that suck?" or make him say something. Just say damn...my life sucks :( I don't know what to do anymore. Maybe he'll be like no baby you still have me(:

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