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*arawhore1
writes:dear cupidthe guy i liked has ruined his life.hes missing to much schoolhe never got into collagehe leaving to do nothing he drinks to muchsmokes to muchdoes drugswhy i have the crush on his because the boy behind all of that is the same i remember. my prince charming.i no i cant MAKE him change his lifebut there must be something i can do.or try to convince him to stay in school for a bit longer. he is going to leave with nothing.please help.i will answer your questions.thanksxx
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 That's exactly what I'm saying. AngelDlite nailed it. No matter how much you want to help, he has to want to help himself. About all you can do is report him to the authorities. Perhaps some "tough love" will help him. However, this would definitely cause him to hate you. The criminal justice system also isn't the best place to get real help.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (20 February 2011):
 hi
we do understand your feelings but realistically there is nothing you can do to make him change his behaviour. he KNOWS that what he is doing is wrong. what do you think you can possibly say to him that he doesn't already know? he knows the right path, but he is choosing not to take it.
he may decide to change himself and improve himself in the future, but this will be if/when HE is ready. i was in a similar situation as you very recently and believe me, if i thought for a minute that i could cure/save this man by loving him; i would be on his doorstep right now! but i know, sadly that things don't work that way!
do yourself a favour and do not let this lad drag you down with him. you came here looking for advice, seems you do not like the advice you have received but honestly hun, it is reliable advice. listen to it
xx
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reader, parawhore1 +, writes (20 February 2011):
parawhore1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo your saying yeah let him ruin his life then? No body can help? You dont how much he means to me :(
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reader, dirtball +, writes (19 February 2011):
You can't. Life isn't fair. I know it really sucks.
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reader, parawhore1 +, writes (19 February 2011):
parawhore1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHow can i least convice or say something to keep him in school , so hes not on the streets dealing :(xxx
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 February 2011):
Sometimes the only thing you can do with people you love is let them make their own decisions, good or bad. They have to live their own life. Some people can learn from the mistakes of others, others need to make those mistakes themselves and learn the hard way. He sounds like he needs to learn the hard way.
You can tell him you're worried for him, and concerned about him. That you'll be there if he needs help. But, beyond that, there's nothing you can do, and you acknowledge that.
It sucks, but sometimes you have to separate yourself from someone dear to you because watching them destroy themselves is simply too painful.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 February 2011):
 Darling am so sorry that you are watching someone you like ruin there life but there is nothing you can do sweetie to help him, if he is only the same age as you and he is smoking, drinking and doing drugs well then he is not going to listen to you. But if you are really worried about him, which i no that you are then i think you should tell an adult you trust about how worried you are and try and get him the help that he needs. Goodluck pet.
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