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writes:Hi,I have a huge dilemma going on in my life at the moment: I am in love with one of my male friends (and I'm pretty sure he feels the same way) but I'm not sure whether or not I should initiate an intimate relationship with him. You see, I'm in my first year of university, and next year I'm moving into a house with some friends, him included. I can't help but think that if I started going out with him now, things could get incredibly messy later on when we moved in together. I mean, the likelihood is that we won't be dating throughout our time at uni, so when our relationship eventually does come to an end, living in the same house as each other will make it extremely awkward.My head is telling me to hold back, but my heart is telling me to go for it. The trouble is that I've never felt this way about anyone before; I sort of feel like we're meant for each other sometimes. How can I possibly fight the urge to develop my relationship with him? I don't think I'll ever forgive myself if I don't pursue my feelings. On the other hand, I just feel so caught up in the practicalities and inevitable drawbacks of the situation... it's incredibly confusing to me.Thank you for taking the time to understand my problem. I would be really grateful to hear your advice.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 February 2011):
 I think you need to stop worrying about the future and concentrate on the present. I mean your not even in a relationship with this man and before anything can happen you are worrying about when or if it goes wrong and you are both living together. You say you love him so if thats the case, stop worrying about the ifs and maybes because for all you know he might be your future and what if he was to be your life long partner. We cant live our lives on what ifs. Therefore go for it and tell him how you feel. You have nothing to lose and so much to gain. Goodluck hunny and let me know how things go.
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