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writes:Me and my fiance have been together nearly a year and we got pregnant pretty fast (after 4 months) but we are happy about it and have kept the baby which is due next month. Anyway everyone was fine about it except his sister. She started telling everyone that I just wanted to get 'knocked up' by anyone and that I wanted to trap her brother, which is obviously all lies. She doesnt even know me so I dont know where all of this came from at all, and Im deeply hurt at the kind of things shes been saying.This caused a whole lot of unpleasentness and she started ignoring me. Their mom was upset by it all but kind of was on her daughters side and defended her behaviour to me and my fiance... and nobody stuck up for me at all. I didnt even feel I could say anything as everyone else was 'treading on egg shells' around her. It was kind of accepted that she hated me for no reason and I got very upset by it, especially as we live with her and its really awkward. When shes around we cant talk about the baby and I feel unable to join in conversation if shes involved. Well now the sister has started talking to me politely, but I can tell that she doesnt like me still. Her mom thinks everything is ok now and keeps telling me to forgive and forget, but Im finding it really hard because of the way i was treated. The hardest thing was that everyone else kind of accepted that she was horrible to me and never did anything about it. Now I feel like im not really part of the family as people must think her feelings are more important than mine.i really dont know what to do about this as the baby is coming soon and i hate the atmosphere. My fiance suggested me talking to her but what the hell am i supposed to say to make things better? I resent the fact that I have to approach her to resolve things when its her thats caused the situation. Also if i bring it up now that its kind of died down slightly i risk being accused of making the situation worse.What should I do if anything?Thanks for reading.
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reader, mitta +, writes (5 July 2009):
mitta is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply...
She definitely is jealous. She tries to make people feel sorry for her, and takes her jealousy out on me and slags me off to her mom so her mom and me wont bond aswell. She is a spoilt brat really, at the age of 24 she lives at home, has a full time job but doesnt pay her way and even takes her moms credit card shopping and then she wants to justify her behaviour by saying her life is hard and its not fair.
Her mom has even resorted to funding a deposit for her and her boyfriend to buy a house because she is too good to rent apparently... all to shut her up complaining about her 'terrible life' so she will start treating me like half a human.
Sorry if this sounds more like a rant than a follow up but its really bothering me today :(
I fear that she will get worse when the baby is born too. But I am DEFINITELY not going to let her ignore or treat my baby like crap... so we will just see what happens!
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (5 July 2009):
 If your boyfriend is happy about the baby, then his sister should be happy for him. Sounds like a case of jealousy and spite to me, and if everyone 'treads on eggshells' around her, I would take that as a sign that they all know how nasty she can be but tolerate it because they're family and that's what families often do. Also, if she's jealous now, she'll probably be worse when the baby arrives and the family start fussing over it, so get ready for that. Just look forward to the day that you and your boyfriend can move into a place of your own, and make the most of being a mum.
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