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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now, we are both 19 and I am sure I love him, having been in love before. I do everything for him from cooking for him if he finishes work late, to just doing thoughtful things such as putting his washing in too if mine is going in (we live in uni accommodation together). one time after a drink or too I told him I loved him during the course of a bit of a tiff, he said nothing and after discussing this later he said "I'm mad that I didn't say it back because I do love you... I think". I feel hurt, like I'm the one with all the feelings and he could take me or leave me. there are plenty of opportunities for him to tell me he loves me, so why isn't he? does he not love me? is it because I've been in love before that I feel confident enough to tell him?I feel like ending the relationship as I am upset that he doesn't seem to feel the same after what I think is a considerable period of time. thanks for any responses :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (2 April 2013):
 My husband never says I love you. Well that's not quite true.. we have been together since December 2010. He's said it 3 or 4 times. ONE at our wedding as part of our vows so I would have it on tape. I rarely expect to hear it from him and I have learned not to say it to him as he does not believe that words are what love is about.
What i have learned is that he SHOWS me he loves me with his actions. The way he cares about me, the things he does for me, the things he remembers to do when I've forgotten.
Some folks don't use words... there is a great book called "the five languages of love" It taught me that while my love language is words and acts of time, his is acts of service and time then gifts... so i had to learn to HEAR what he was saying by what he was doing....
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (2 April 2013):
 Love is quite a powerful word. How long have you actually known your boyfriend? Dating someone for 6 months is barely enough time to know whether or you love them. Perhaps you simply fall for people more easily. Perhaps you are more comfortable with it, you cannot expect everyone to find it just as easy. Give him more time...but in my honest opinion, if you are willing to consider ending it after so short a time, I must question whether or not what you feel is really love at all. Are you certain what you feel is love?
I hope that helps.
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