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*ichelle200
writes:My boyfriend and I have been getting on exceptionally well and he is positive about our future together. He has made me so happy and is a loving caring person, i couldnt have asked for more. I cant stress how good this relationship was. HOWEVER, whilst drunk he hit me on the leg and i bruised a little. We werent having an argument as such but the subject matter was about me meeting a male friend and how much he loved me. He was so sorry and has said that he will not do it again. I am still upset and have asked for a serious chat about it (when sober). On 2 seperate occasions, he has put his hands around my throat and squeezed a little until uncomfortable, again whilst drunk. He seemed to be playing rather than doing it as a result of an argument. How should I handle this situation ? Do i walk away or give him one final chance ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010): I've been with a guy that is agressive when drunk, he put his hands on my often. Pushing me around bars.. ripping my necklace of my neck.
I never had the strength to leave.
I was so caught up in that guy that I would let him control me. I didn't even realise that it was wrong, and never told anyone about the things he did. On some occassions, I thought it was funny.
While you realise it, please get out. Be one of the lucky ones, like me.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 March 2010):
 Stay away from him when he drinks. Avoid him if you can. Some day you may not even get to issue him a final warning. It will be very sad because you did not take precautions.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 March 2010):
Absolutely, positively 100% leave him. You've already given him too many chances. 3 times he has been abusive, and has done nothing to correct it, such as giving the drink up. Walk away now, or next time instead of your leg, it'll be your face and you may not get up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010): Drop him an abusive man couldn b a gd boyfriend let alone husband. NORMALLY tis kind of man not goin to let u off so don ever drop into his hole again . not to b too sofe hearted.
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reader, Kenj +, writes (10 March 2010):
 There should be no excuse for agression at all.
Does he remember these things the next day? He needs professional help, you cant help him. He has to admit he has a problem first.
Its not your place to be a punchbag for him. You should be very careful if you decide to stay with him and be prepared for it to happen again and again.
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