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*ai Mai
writes:Dear Cupid,Im having a normal teen relationship problem, im just gonna shoot out my problems and then ask. Well i been with my boyfriend for a year and few months now. Im 18 and he's 19. I met him on myspace and everything was going so well, we talked on the phone telling eachother about our life and what happened in our past relationship, note you that he has told me that he been hurt in his past relationship, someone he been with for 4 years he wanted to marry her and then broke his heart. After a few weeks meeting each other on myspace and remind you we haven't met in person yet, we started liking each other more and more we got together a mnth later in person. He was the person i would expect, he's a great guy and very respecful. As the months went by we are still having a great relationship until i messed up, on the other hand i still had guy friends and sent a few guys pics and he end up finding out by giving each other our passwords to emails and aim ect. I hurt him because of that and i felt bad, so on i;ve done this a few more times. Until the point where he doesnt trust me anymore. As the months went by i notice that he also had female friends still also, idk if he sent them pics or not but i knew he was still talking to other females and yes i was getting mad a being jealous. That was a point in time when we was that serious in our relationship but as we got closer and deeper to love we started changing when it comes to other friends around, he stopped talking to them period, and i did also but there may be some times when i end up talking to them. I have seen them females he been talking to on myspace or aim and they pretty. Dnt get me wrong but im also attractive but i start feeling all of a sudden that i wasnt the one for him because, later on into the year i may caught him 2 or 3 times talking to pretty females and he always have an excuse but i go by it. But now until this day he doesnt talk to no girls what so ever. But i still feel that he can do better than being with me. Until it got worse in our relationship, ive been nothing but a jealous, low self esteem person. He says he loves me everyday and wants to be with me. He says he know what he want in his life and its me. Should i really believe that? Is it me or my fault that im this way? I get mad when he gets requests on facebook. We are still long distance, im in l.a and he's in hemet, ca. I feel that it could be someone or anyone out there for him instad of me. I love him so much and yes i want to be with him forever. Ive done a lot to him and made him the person he is, he dont like me going nowhere, i have to tell him tht im about to go here or there. Just controlling all of a sudden and i blame this on myself. He been this way for a year and now its coming off on me, im starting to get mad when he leaves or just get mad at him watching movies with females period in the movie that he may like or anyhting that has something to do with females. Please tell me at least whats goin on? Am i really the one for him? The way he is, seems like he needs a girl that has something going for them selves, very smart , and beautiful, i dnt feel that way about myself.
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reader, Mai Mai +, writes (29 March 2010):
Mai Mai is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you so much. you really helped .
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010): Ok, seriously... don't blame this on yourself what so ever.
I was with a guy for a year and half, thought I loved him. Didn't notice what he was doing to me. He got jealous of me talking/seeing my male friends, I was hardly ever allowed to leave his side.
What your going through, with him talking to females.. you got to let him do it and trust him. If you love each other like you say you do, you got to believe it. trust him. you and Him both change your passwords on your accounts, and dont give them each other. It only causes trouble.
Right now, I have the most amazing relationship with a guy all because we trust each other.
I met him, and 5 months ago he split up from his 4 year girlfriend.. and i had recently split up with my ex.
He is 26 and I am 20. We both talk to our ex's, and we know that nothing is going on. If there was something going on then surely we wouldn't be so open about it with each other.
Your only young, and you can't be with a guy that constantly lowers your self esteem, (ESPECIALLY when he is so far away) and doesnt let you enjoy the company of your male friends or even speak to them. While your young pleaseee make sure you make the most of your life, and enjoy it with your friends.
You can ask anybody, and they will say the same thing. Get out, do your thing, be with him if you want but TRUST him.
you can't have a relationship, and be truely in love if there isnt trust.
x
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