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*ovebug 1919
writes:ok so im a freshman in high school so is he. we text a lot it seems like he likes me. the only thing holding me back is my weight. im 5'2" and 115lbs. hes 6'3" and so tall and skinny. what do i do?
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reader, lovebug 1919 +, writes (18 May 2011):
lovebug 1919 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay thanks everyone! your answers were really helpful! i'll keep talking to him and try to keep a positive self image! thanks sooooo much :)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 May 2011):
 If you didn't have a little extra curve in your belly, you'd look like a guy. Is this guy into other guys, or does he like girls? Because if he likes girls, he probably won't be attracted to a girl who looks like a guy. I'm pretty sure you look like a girl.Let me tell you something that you will probably find hard to believe. If you are healthy and relatively fit, you look as good as you ever will. I remember thinking at your age that I looked chunky. Of course I was nothing of the kind, 10 years down the road I looked back at how I looked then and couldn't believe I'd been so hard on myself. I was hard on myself in my 20s and of course in my 30s I couldn't believe how good I looked in those old photos of me in my 20s. And again, in my 40s, I looked back on myself in my 30s and beat myself up again for being so harsh on myself.It's a tough lesson to learn and some women never do. I'm still working on it but I have to say that, at 50, I look good. I have plenty of body flaws but you know what? I look good because I feel good because I am fit. I am working on it.So embrace that flawed imperfect body of yours, you are wonderful just the way you are.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 May 2011):
 sweetie.. women are supposed to have little soft bellies... slightly rounded and cushioned... it protects your parts...
MOST men prefer women with a bit of curves to them.
do not fret that you are fat... I bet you are darling and he thinks so too...
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (17 May 2011):
 Hello OP,
Who says the tummy fat turns him off? It's never turned them off in my experience. He texts you and obviously likes doing it. We would all confess to one or two specific things we dont like about ourselves. I say keep getting to know him.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 May 2011):
 I strongly doubt that , at 115 pounds, you have a big fat round belly. I doubt that your little tummy fat is anything more than a NORMAL fat layer between skin and bones. But supposing you do have a bit of fat belly - then ?
Why , is he absolutely flawless, perfect, not even a blemish from head to toe ?... A Greek god body only compatible with another goddess? So what is he doing at home, why is he not in Hollywood making big bucks ?...
It really makes me sad, to see how entrenched and pervasive is lack of confidence among women. You sure won't catch HIM all insecure and self deprecating because he's got, say, a funny-shaped navel !
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2011): If you are looking here for assurance that you're not overweight, then okay...I will agree that you're not overweight.I would say your lack of self confidence and sense of self are the only things holding you back, not your weight. Men generally appreciate that far more than your height in inches or a number on the scale. Good luck.
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reader, lovebug 1919 +, writes (17 May 2011):
lovebug 1919 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut considering my height and weight it gives me a little tummy fat. he has none. i think my little tummy fat turns him off
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reader, Partyboy123  +, writes (17 May 2011):
 hey,I am 6'1, my ex girlfriend was around 5'8 or so, i am skinny, she weighed around the same as you.. but it was fine with her and i... she was really easy to move whilst making out, and she was fit, so i didn't mind... we had an alright chemistry, but things turned for the worse with her free spirited mindset and very independent personality...really, it doesn't matter, fat or skinny, tall or short, fit or out of shape.. love overcomes those things. my friend is 6'1 and has a body mass index of 8%, he weighs 175 and is super-SUPER lean... his girlfriend, is 5'3 and weighs 160, she is not overweight, but she is not skinny... it doesn't matter to him one bit... "Beauty is only skin deep."
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (17 May 2011):
Hello, I can't see a problem. He texts you so obviously has seen you and still texts. He likes you. I've dated guys above 6ft, even one at 6ft8. All head and shoulders above me and it never made a difference. You ask what you do? Keep texting him and get to know him more.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (17 May 2011):
Why, what's wrong with your weight ? it's perfect for your height !or do you think he won't like you because he's tall and you are not ? ... Naaaah..lots of tall guys actually prefer small girls.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (17 May 2011):
 I dont see the problem either - your weight is perfectly fine, you are skinny yourself so I dont get what you are worried about?! For your height your weight is normal, maybe even slightly lower than ideal but definitely nowhere near being fat or overweight.
If the height is the main problem, well I am 5"3 and have dated many guys well over 6ft, it has never made any difference! Some tall guys like short girls as they feel like they can really protect her and it is a nice feeling for them.
If you both like each other then go for it, your height wont cause any problems and you are not fat or anything like that, and even if you are heavier than him - most men and women who are in relationships are different weights, you dont need to be the same to date each other! It really doesnt matter, I promise!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 May 2011):
what's the problem here?
I'm just over 5'2" my ex hubby is 6'4"
my mom was 5'2" to my dad's 6'2"
and your weight seems fine to me....
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