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writes:HiThe thought of my ex having sex with her new B\F is killing me. Is this normal? How do i get this out of my head?thanks
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reader, littlesuziepie  +, writes (20 June 2008):
 When me and my daughters father were splitting up we decided to have sex still and told each other that we wouldn't tell the other one when we found someone else we would just stop having sex.
One night he came over and we had such romantic time. He said duerung sex that he could be with me forever.
I was sure I had never lost that love for him.
Weeks months and a whole year went by before I spoke to him again. That night was our last he made it special but it hurt me so bad that I couldn't sleep or eat or watch TV or do anything.
It has to be one of the worse pains there is.
Please you have to try and get your self busy as everyone else said.
Its not going to get better until you really try to get it out of your head.
All the crying in the world won't bring that person back to you unless they love you back.
You should tell her how you feel.
It may help you to just say it to her. As closer or something and then move on from there.
I am so sorry you feel as you do. I feel for you.
I pray you get better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): That's very, very normal.
It the hardest thing in the world.
I'm sorry you're being hurt so badly and I wish there was a easy solution for you.
I agree with smiles... You need to try and stop thinking about it. Go and and focus on other things. If you ever find yourself sitting at home thinking about it, go out and do something that will take your mind off it... Go to the cinema and watch a film... meet up with friends. Just try and have fun.
Good Luck. x
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reader, mezameo +, writes (20 June 2008):
I can tell you from experience. The pain is tremendous. The more you dwell on it the worse it can get. Unfortunately this kind of pain is one of the few things in life we can't avoid. The only thing you can do is try your absolute best to stay in the moment. Whatever you are doing, just do it. Whatever you are thinking, make sure it is something real, not just your feelings coming to the surface. It also helps to not be alone during these times. Try your best not to look for another lover too soon as this will just avoid dealing with this pain. You have to work through it don't run from it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): There is really only one way, it might not be easy, but stop thinking about it. When the thought cross your mind,start thinking about something else, don't dwell on thoughts like that.It is not healthy and will do you no good.
It will get better, start controlling your thoughts.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): it must be very normal, because i feel the same way about my ex and his new gf. it hurts so much, the pain is both physical and emotional. i even sometimes cry walking down the street or on a subway .
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