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writes:Hi!! I fell in love with my teacher 9 or 10 months ago and it's been really hard for me to get through the year with such strong feelings for him. But it's the second last week of the year and i recently found out my teacher was leaving and i'm completely heartbroken to think that after next week i'm never gonna see him again!And i'm so upset and i don't know how i'm gonna live i really need help to get over him and quick i don't wether i should say something to him (by the way he knows how i feel about him)or i really don't know what to do??Please help and quick before it's the end of the year!! I would like to hear from some male teachers to hear there point of view and to see what they think i should do!!But it's open to everyone. Thanks if you can helpxx xxxANGELS EYESxxx
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reader, Angels Eyes +, writes (26 June 2008):
Angels Eyes is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi Everyone!
Just to say i said goodbye to him!!
And it was the best moment of my life!!
So thanks everyone for your help!!
xxxANGELS EYEESxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): Good luck for tommorow (Tuesday). It's going to be really hard. At least it won't continue into obsession and then destroy your life. In a month it'll all be better.
Seriously, your going to be putting yourself through torture. If he knows how you feel, he might point them out - but then again he might not take them seriously. I'd suggest you'd just go to him and tell him to wish him luck, have a last chat then do what you want.
Just remember it will never happen...
Don't worry I've got mine next week after a week without mine so...I know how your feeling - I'm terrified at the moment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): Hi Angeleyes,
Have a good day at school today and don't worry. I know he's leaving tomorrow and I know your gonna be very upset, but so will he. Everybody's gonna be upset, it's hard when a favourite teacher leaves. It dosen't matter if you cry and it dosen't matter if you tell him your gonna miss him, cause many of his other students will feel the same way. He'll probably start crying himself.
Just remember not to start talking about love or any of that stuff, or do anything inappropriate like lock him in the classroom and try to tear of his clothes. The correct response is tears, I'll miss you, and if he wants maybe a hug, but only if he tries to hug you first.
Sorry kid, but he's got to go, and I'll know you'll be sad. Don't worry about tomorrow, it's alright to show you care (as a good student should) and its alright if you get upset. Just try your best to make him proud. Take care of you kid, hugs and good luck.
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reader, Angels Eyes +, writes (22 June 2008):
Angels Eyes is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi!! Can i just clarify i'm 12 years and he's 27 years old.I had to say that so you know the age gap and everything. Please keep your answers coming in because tuesdays the last i EVER see him!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): You obviously fancy the pants off this guy, but seriously he is like eight years older than you at least. The only thing you can really do is give it time or perhaps find yourself a guy your own age...
Keep Smiling...X
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reader, Angels Eyes +, writes (20 June 2008):
Angels Eyes is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi everyone!!
Thanks for all your help keep it coming!!
But this is just a quick update:
I had my teacher today and because people were going on holiday they wern't gonna be in next week so he went like well if i don't see you again it's been a pleasure teaching you and i'll miss you all very MUCH!!And he nearly burst into tears at the end of the period i walked out the class and burst into tears!!I was so upset:(And it wasn't even my last day!!I do't know what am gonna be like on tuesday when it is my last day i don't want to get upset and put him in an awkward situation!!
Please help!!
Oh and can i just say i'm 12 years old.
xxxANGELS EYESxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): nothing, dont do anything out of the norm. just tell him you really liked him as a teacher and be done with it. theres not much you yourself can do in this situation anyway. as others have said. he IS YOUR TEACHER.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): I'm sorry your feeling this way. Big hugs to you. I know how much you care about this man, but he is your teacher, he is just a man doing a job. Now he has to go away and do a job somewhere else. There is nothing you can do. He knows how much you like and respect him. This is enough.
You are heartbroken, I understand, these things happen. But you must get over him, you must survive, you must stay strong. He will go on to make a new life somewhere else, and so must you.
Keep yourself busy, find fun and interesting things to do with your friends. Find a new hobby, concentrate on your school work, do anything and everything you can to get on with your life as best as you can. Love can grow and love can die if he isn't around to keep your love living and growing. You'll be ok. Everybody has heartache at one time or another. This is your time. The pain will eventually go away and you will begin to enjoy life again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): I'm not a male teacher, and far from adult. Although I'm only 15, I've been through this situation too, and facing the same dilemia in 2 weeks.For one, if your age is 10-12, it's difficult for your teacher to do anything at all. Also, and this hurts, and you probably won't really believe me, but it's probably not love. It's probably infatuation, which can be more painful.It's also harder to give up on.Don't, like me, create horrible situations, don't destroy your life over it. I know all humans are almost electronically tagged to hate suicide but if you seriously don't know how your going to love seek help. If your struggling, seek help.Did you tell him you liked him? What was his reaction? I think, and this isn't going to be an easy situation whatever happens, that you should try to avoid being obsessed with him. I think, the last day your going to see him, to talk to him about it - that way he can't really go to the Headmaster or your parents and create an awkward situation - and therefore you unable to say that last goodbye. I think you should try and forget about him - you've got your whole life ahead of you, and I know it's hard to believe; it does get better.If you look maturely about it, then you should learn to be stronger and wiser as a person. I think that you should find a website - I don't know any - similar or even this, just to find people that are going through the same thing as a support matter. I'm not throwing myself into the ring because I'm not really the same age as you, and I kind of deserve to go through the pain alone - don't ask - but everything bad that happens always comes out with a positive - partly because it can only get better.Just think about the future and don't get yourself into bad situations. Try and learn stuff from it. And talk to him about it.Sorry it's so long
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): Unfortunetly I'm not a male teacher- LOL- but I think its just a phase you're going through, you're still young and you probably think you fancy him because he is someone you look up to. I used to fancy my P.E. teacher because he was so handsome but at the end of the day he is alot older than you and even if he did love you in the same way it is illegal to pursue it. I advise you to find someone your own age who cares about you alot, which will take your mind off him. X
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