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writes:Im 26 and my boyfriend of 3 years is 23. He is a great guys and we get along great. We have a house together and a life. Everything between us is 50/50. I don't really have a lot of time to hang out with friends and to be honest I have lost touch with most of my friends over the last few years. Mainly we hang out with his friends which I consider to be my friends as well. Lately I have been having real issues with his mouth when we are hanging out with friends and he is drinking. The guys are all between 21-27 years old and They all love to talk about boobs! Does not seem to matter that there are girls around they just talk about how great they are and they talk about other girls too. I didn't let to bother me to much because I know boys will be boys but It started to really get to me when he was drunk one night and stared talking about having sex with one of my friends of course he said with me there too. He was naming them off and saying get her or get this one "I could tell that she wanted me" He was not kidding around either. He would say what do you expect me to never have sex with anyone else? Anyways the next day I didn't even bring it up because I was sure he would not even remember. To be honest this is a BIG reason I don't bring my friends around. Im afraid to give him ANY opportunity to screw around on me! I have a hard time trusting and so does he. The other night while we were are drinking and talking we were trying to figure out who could go with us to Cedar Point next week and I asked my 25 years old (girl) cousin to go with us. She said that she would and when I told the guys including my boyfriend.....He (my boyfriend) asked me how big her boobs were!! I was so upset but just blew it off. He does it like its no big deal. It makes me feel like crap and he always says why don't you ever invite your friends over or anything? Yeah I wonder why?!?! If I did the whole time I would be thinking "oh thats one he said he wanted to sleep with" and it would make me feel really uncomfortable. I don't know how to bring this up to him without making myself feel worse. He is young so at times he is hard to talk to. I know most of it is drunk talk but its sticks with me all the time not just when we have a few drinks. Thats great that he does not remember but I do! I don't know what to do. I don't know if Im jealous or just not trusting or crazy or overreacting! What do I do? I feel a rage coming on with this and I think one day Im gonna snap when he is acting like this and make an ass of myself in front of people.
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reader, bunnyblueeyes  +, writes (8 August 2011):
 You should definately talk to him. He is putting your relationship in jeopardy. Its highly likely he is just mouthing off to his mates and doesn't realise he's being extrenmely offensive and hurtful.
Tell him how you feel and he'll probably reassure you and try his best to keep his mouth under control.
Good luck. X
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reader, betty blue +, writes (8 August 2011):
You are not overreacting . He is being insensitive and immature but its not unusual at his age. I think he is doing it to get your attention and wind you up. Try not to bite. Why don't you go on about how great other gjys bodies are for a few days to see how he likes it. Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2011): Obviously he is intrigued by having sex with other women. Maybe he didn't collect much experience in that area when he was younger and feels that he's missing out on something.
I have a friend who was acting similar and ended up cheating on his girlfriend multiple times before dumping her. I'm not saying your boyfriend will, but you should by all means have an open talk with him about it. It's not normal, there is definitely something wrong in your relationship.
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