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writes:Iv got a slight problem here and i welcome any help that i can get.My partner is a wonderful man and is very good with the kids but i am quickly going off him. He doesn't wipe his bum properly because he has loads of skid marks in his boxers! I am sick to death of it,i have told him about this but all he says is that he cant wipe himself properly because it stings him. Trouble is,when i wash his underwear it doesn't always come off. What do you think his problem is?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008): I would show him them and say look, that's it now. We are finished
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): You should rub his boxer shorts in his face or at dinner time serve his shorts, skidmarks and all to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): I have a 7 year old son who gets skidmarks, and as he still gets me to cheak his bum after he wipes, I know its not lack of wipping that causes the skids, My mum ,who was a nurse said that it was probably due to nerves. The doctor said it was an overflow problem from being backed up. There all really just theories, I'd talk to him, kindly, and try helping him to try different things to see what helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2007): his problem is your cooking. make that man bean soup with a side of greens. he needs some fiber. he might rip a few stink bombs from the soup but his "bum" should be cleaner from the solid dumps that comes with the fiber intake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2007): Skidmarks happen...If you love the guy, its hardly something to consider leaving him for! I mean, as long as he doesn't like reek the whole house up, just let it go.
Sometimes boxers ride up and rub against the inside of the anus, which is not rare to have some fecal matter on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2007): I would instruct him on the use of wet ones, such as the ones used for babies, they have ones without perfumes and etc. and are much softer than most toilet tissue. Remind him it is his responsibility to keep himself clean and that he must remove the wet ones immediately after use in a small trash bag away from the bathroom. Maybe his bum hurts if he is using colored tissue paper, has large stools, hard stools or alot of stools. Bottom line is his bum is going to hurt if he doesn't get it clean. There is no reason to have feces in your undies, clean up mister!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2006): Get him to wear panty liners.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2006): I think it is a vicious circle. His bum is getting sore, because he is not wiping properly and then as a result does not wipe properly. in a relationship you should show respect to one another and he should change his ways. A shitty arse shows no respect at all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2006): Maybe the boy is turned on by his skidmarks? I know of some people who try to see how bad they can skid their briefs or boxers. Otherwise I am 25 and leave skid in my briefs frequently. My other half has never said anything ot me about it, and none of my other girlfriends have ever commented on the often times big skidmarks I leave in my briefs. Also if your man is hairy down there, that adds to the problems too. If his skids are the only reason you are turned off from him, then you are also part of the problem, because usually there are a few things we don't like about others, but for there to be this 1 minor deciding factor, that you have with him, then you too have issue. Skids happen, live with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2006): iam a guy of 26 and in all my life haven ever had 'skiddies'. it sounds revolting!! i eat healthy food and excercise 3 times a week, maybe thats the answer for this man. even if i ever had this 'problem' and god help me if i ever did! i would never expect my girlfriend to wash them. they would go straight in to the bin! actually no because then the bin men would see them! i would set fire to them! no, coz what if the fire got out of control and then i'd have to call the fire brigade! you see, theres no escape from these poo poo pants!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2006): Like I said.
Get him to the doc's. This may be diet related as well as mental health related.
Have him do his own laundry and make sure he has his own hamper.
Stick to this rule and tell him that he needs to do this for three months and you want improvement.
Tough Love.
Is this man overwieght? Does he suffer from low self esteem?
If it is that severe then you really do have title to complaint as well as he does have some serious issues.
Just try to do what was suggested and good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionResponding to Malyce Synn,his skiddies aren't small ones,they are thick,crusty ones.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2006): Why should you be embarrassed at his mother discovering his underwear? She should be the embarrassed one if she didn't teach her son to wipe his arse peoperly. And if his own mother won't touch his underwear again - the same woman who would have changed his pooey diapers and cleaned up his vomit as a child - if his own mother won't touch them, then why should you? Make him wash his own undies I reckon. And ask him to see a doctor too. If it stings him to wipe his arse, he may have torn his skin around there (sorry to be graphic, but you asked) from sharp things in his poo like maybe corn kernels or whatever or from straining too hard. It can actually be quite serous if there's a tear there and it gets bacteria in it and gets infected.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2006): Mother In Law should have been the embarassed on as it was her bloody son.
I would have asked her if he was like that when he was little and did she do anything about it.
If you can not stand the idea of telling your guy on how to properly wipe his ass...they why stay?
If it bothers you that much and trying to get him to re-train himself on wiping is so irritating and a waste of your time and energy then you either stop complaining about it and deal with it or hit the road.
It just seems a bit superficial to leave someone because of the occasional skid mark.
Have you told him just how much it is turning you off? Have you told him that it is very offensive and unsanitary and you are not touching them and he can launder his own undies if he wants undies? Get him a separate hamper to discard his undies into. Make a penalty for him leaving his filthy undies on the floor; like he isn't allowed beer in the house for three days.
Tell him you expect him to abide by the rules as he is a grown male and he is more than able to take care of himself.
Tell him you are at your wits end and that you do not see a future of you wiping his bottom or you cleaning his skid marked undies as you will not be around much longer.
Maybe drastic consequences will have him thinking.
Seriously, what woman wants a man to be so lazy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIv read your comments and have taken them all on board but i think it is sad,that a grown man of 42 years of age has to be told on how to wipe his arse,it annoys me sometimes.My mother in law had to wash my clothes once because my washing machine broke down and she said that she retched when she discovered my partner's boxers.I was very embarrassed.She said she wouldn't touch them again.
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reader, midgetgem +, writes (9 September 2006):
 Ok, admission here!!
This is awfully familiar to the argument I've been having with my other half recently.
Picking up his drawers and noticing those indelicate marks was not very nice..... to say the very least.
I have asked him to ensure that he wipes his bottom properly (like children aren't they) and pointed out that none of my underwear have these unfortunate marks.
Months late I am still picking up some rather nasty specimens from the wash basket!!
If I find a solution i will be sure t let you know! Can you do the same if you manage to find the answer?
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reader, bonym +, writes (8 September 2006):
 This is not healthy because the germs contained in faeces are extremely poisonous. As Stina rightly says, get some baby wipes, they are gentle enough for a babys bum so they will do for his bum wont they. He needs to wipe the excrement away, otherwise the germs will spread causing all kinds of nasty illnesses. Take care. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2006): Ewww! Use fire and lots of it!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2006): Egad!
Some of the questions that get asked on here!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2006): So what ..... thats not the kind of thing love is about ... you shouldnt mind about all that stuff
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2006): Why would you feel sick now and not when looking at the skids?
Either way; if it is just too overwhelming then move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYUK!..I feel sick now.
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (8 September 2006):
 "And with the wipes there should be no more streaking."
Ooh perish the thought
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2006): Does he suffer from hemroids? Has he any medical conditions?
Maybe he has his butt wiped until a certain age and therefore didn't quite grasp the concept of wiping?
Maybe he is genetically made with an oversensitive anus?
Maybe he is overily lazy?
Maybe it is related to the same reason why children play with their fecal matter?
Tell him that he needs to visit the local doctor about his oversensitive ass as you, being a mother and who has taught her children how to wipe their rear ends properly...are at a loss as to why he, a grown man can not master this task.
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reader, stina  +, writes (8 September 2006):
 Anonymous,
Seriously - get this man some baby wipes so that wiping doesn't 'sting' and tell him to get to the doctor because that doesn't even sound normal!
Maybe it stings because it's infected down there from lack of wiping! (Maybe he has hemrroids - that can cause some stinging and he should really go to the doctor.) He really needs to do that because it's extremely unhealthy/unhygenic. Feces is at least 2/3 straight up bacteria and it can really cause some problems, especially if you are having sex with him and he's that unsanitary.
If he refuses to go to the doctor, please, at least get this poor man some anti-bacterial soft and moist baby wipes for his apparently ultra-sensitive bum!
Oh, and throw away that stained underwear - he needs new ones by the sound of it. And with the wipes there should be no more streaking.
Good luck!
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