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writes:Ok, we all know that when you have a F*** Buddy it's just about sex, there isn't much of a friendship there or whatever. So, my ex fbuddy still contacts me because he was adament he wanted to stay friends (he now has a girlfriend), to be honest i asked him why he wanted to be friends seeing as all we really did was have sex, he said he thought it would "be nice" so i agreed. So, he's been with her roughly a year and we still talk occsaionaly "hi how are you?" etc... he's the one who usually starts the convo first. The thing is lately his convos have started back towards the flrty side, and he "jokingly" asks who i'm dating etc... things like that. Lately the convos have been becoming a bit heated, very sexual in nature. So, i guess my question is, was all this talk of "friendship" just some lie to keep me on the "backburner" so to speak, incase he wanted to fool around. Recently i've got the feeling that his offer of friendship was just a lie to keep me around. As i say, when i'm online he starts the convo first about 90% of the time, and it's eaither sexual in nature or him saying i'm "hot" and things like that. What do you think?
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reader, Mittens 89  +, writes (14 September 2010):
to alone in the town, he was with his girlfriend about 3 months, before he started to text me again. I later found out that he agreed to go other ways and didnt feel the same way about me was becuase he wanted to be with his current girlfriend wile he was messing around with me.
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reader, Mittens 89 +, writes (11 September 2010):
Your right in saying that his "friendship" with you is 2 keep you on the "backburner". I have been problem months ago.
I became friends with this guy and we said it going big just going to have a big of fun, when were we free. At the start it was all fun and games, dirty texts, late nite calls getting each other excited. But things started to change when i fall for him. At that point we agreed to go differnt ways. Well that was until he started to text me. He was dating this girl he loved but he was still texting me like nothing had changed becasue his girlfriend could turn him on with text messages.
Move on with you life deleted him from your email, messanger and moblie, deleted him from your life. He only wants one thing sex, and he would just be using you. Plus if he is willing to cheat on his girlfriend with you he would only do the same on you, how would it make you feel been used just for sex. He sounds like someone who souldn't be in a relationship and would be better off single away from evrybody.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 September 2010):
 Of course his talk of friendship is a way to keep you on the backburner- what else could it be ?
Think about it - was he deeply interested in your conversation , or opinions, or feelings when you were F-buddies ? Did you spend a lot of time together out of the bedroom ? No, right ? I bet he was more into the F part than in the buddy part. So why things should be different now, that he has even got a girlfriend ?
And also think about the conversations you have with your regular friends : are they 90% of sexual,intimate nature ? I'd hope not.
So, two plus two makes four, I'd say.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (10 September 2010):
 I think he wants to keep you hanging around for when he wants some casual sex ... he probably feels he has already done all the hard work with you, he is too lasy to go find himself another convienient receptacle for his sperm.
And that is all you are, just somewhere handy for his to stick it when ever he feels the urge.
Sorry to be so blunt but give him the big heave ho, tell him what a loser he is and then delete him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2010): I think that you are on to it, and that to be on the safe side leave him alone. Imagine if you were his gf and didn't know your bf was doing this? Out of respect for her don't let this continue, don't text and flirt along, leave him, he obviously can't commit to anyone and is using you and his gf. He doesn't deserve that ego boost. Don't let him use you to cheat on his poor girl friend
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reader, Kenj +, writes (10 September 2010):
 It sounds like he just wants more sex. Anyway if he is with a girlfriend if he cheats on her then he will cheat on anyone.
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