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writes:i am friends with a guy and lately have ended up sleeping with him a few times. I wasn't sure at first how much i liked him, was it just friends or did i like him more. When i asked him about it he just said he wanted to be friends, he wasn't ready for another gf yet. I think i like him more now, and everytime he is drunk he tells me he loves me. He has said i so much lately and said we are meant to be together. We have known each other for a long time now. He only says he loves me when he's drunk, so does he really mean it? I also wondered if he says that just to sleep with me
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): Get out- he is just using you and his actions should speak VOLUMES compared to his drunken words.
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reader, Patient1  +, writes (29 January 2007):
 This is a tricky one. I think that the reason for this varies for different people. My father was an alocholic and growing up around him was not easy. My brother and I always complained that the only time he was really nice and played with us and said the words "I love you" was when he was drunk. As we grew up it didn't change much, but I knew, without him saying it that he did love me, I just didn't know how much. He and my mother divorced when I was 26 and ever since then he says it randomly wheather he is drinking or not. I've also had boyfriends who have said it just to get laid. For me it was hard to get used to saying "I love you" because I didn't hear it much as a child. (Which could be another reason it's hard for someone to say "I love you"). Some people are just afraid of rejection. They fear that they may say it and the other person may not say it back, which is an embarrassment to some people. If you really love him and you're considering a relationship, I would just come out and ask him when he's sober. At this point you have nothing to lose, no matter what the reason is, if he really loves you then he will say it when he's sober. If he can't, then I would wait unitl he can before making any serious commitment with this fella. Good luck!
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reader, melschatbox +, writes (29 January 2007):
 Okay,,, you've got a real winner here for sure. He sleeps with you and he's not your b/f and doesn't want a g/f and he can only say I Love You when he's drunk. You need to get out there and find someone that doesn't need to have all of these crutches to lean on to share his emotions with you. He says he loves you while he's drunk..b/c he's drunk! Do you pay special attention to all the other things he says while he's drunk too? Or, just these 3 I love you words b/c that's what you want to hear? Sorry..but thats the harsh reality. I say you need to start dating other potential b/f's and keep the thing between you friends only. NO benefits.
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reader, anxious heart  +, writes (29 January 2007):
Honey, in all honesty i think most of the time the truth comes out when you're drunk, for example until recently i was a closet bi-sexual and it only came out when i was drunk, maybe your man loves you but he might not think it right to go out with a mate, and believe me not many men would say they love you just to get you into bed, men have hearts too, maybe you should just ask him when he's sober if he wants to go out. Good luck
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (29 January 2007):
 It means he is a drunkard plain as that u cam try to help him put of it but if he's not to be your man you better gaet away soon
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