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*itris
writes:Over the past few months of getting over my ex, I've dated a bit and took a few outside old school tips in dealing with those people I dated and it didn't go well at all. Mainly the advice/tips were to not be calling immediately and wait "3 days" or whatever...stupid freaking relationship advice books from the middle ages my friends think are actually helpful...whatever. So i experimented and didn't feel like I was being true to myself, I've always had horrible timing and this just made it worse. I dropped everything back to my normal way of getting a date, dating, etc. Last night I went out with someone I've known for some time, it was fabulous time for me, and I believe for him too. My problem however is I'm a bit nervous because we did fool around, it's the holiday weekend and I never got a chance to say anything to him about what I feel and think(which is basically that I do like him, am attracted to him-pretty sure he knows those two since I did tell him that in a moment of makeout drunkeness lol, but also that I'm not ready to jump into anything, don't want to tie him or myself down and that mostly I really hope nothing gets weird since we have known each other for awhile and have a ton of mutual friends...) I was thinking of calling tonight when I get home from work, but then wow...can't believe I'm doubting myself, would that be too soon? I think I am going to follow my instincs and call him tonight and just get it over with. I worry if I wait it WILL be weird, but don't want to annoy/bug him so soon after last night...any advice?(on the plus side he did say last night that he see's me as a respectable, stand up woman who is honest, smart and a whole lot of other great things....yay! on the not so plus side, when we said goodbye he seemed in a rush to leave like he was freaked out or something. I know he is a great guy, but he's also great at mixed signals...guess I'm getting back what I've been putting out huh?)
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reader, citris +, writes (25 December 2007):
citris is verified as being by the original poster of the question His response is basically that things aren't that weird he had fun and that's about it. I like that he's casual about everything but not so casual...if that makes sense. I also am thrilled he's not making like most guys I date and making promises he probably won't ever be able to keep. we saw each other by chance out the other night and things were fine, we had fun and went home separately no messing around no making out...lol plan to see him this weekend maybe ask him out for new years...dunno.
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reader, superhoopschick +, writes (25 December 2007):
 try relaxing first and breathing, because u seem so nervous. If u keep looking for a guy, its not going to come. just go to places that guys hang out and talk to some. get to know some and hang out, maybe then it would lead to stuff. also the guy is suppose to call usually...
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