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writes:so theres this guy and he is my best friend, hes there for me though thick and thin. he treats my brother like gold (spoils him rotton)and my family loves him. we've gotten really close lately and i have fallen in love with him. but he doesnt like me that way and im ok with that as long as we can still be friends cuz i dont no what i would do without him. but the more we hang out the more it hurts b/c i want to be more then friends but i dont wanna ruin our friendship. what do i do??
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reader, confused2007a  +, writes (9 April 2009):
Tell him. Or ask him if he ever thought about being more than just friends. If he doesn't give you the answer you want, then hang out with him less or stop hanging out with him. It's not healthy to be friends if you want more. Or he may come around. Either way, you shouldn't torture yourself. I've been there.
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reader, niki20 +, writes (9 April 2009):
 is there an age gap between you two? if there is and he is significantly older that can be a factor. are you sure if it is love or lust? you should savor your friendship, he may or may not have feelings for you in time.
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reader, psychologystar  +, writes (9 April 2009):
I know exactly how you feel. This happened to me a couple of months ago. I told my best friend I was in love with him and we've barely spoken since and i'm only just recovering.
However, this doesn't have to be the case with you. First of all, how do you know he doesn't like you like that? Has he said anything that makes you sure? It sounds like he likes you, from the way he acts around your family etc.
If you're postive that he doesn't feel the same way, then I'm afraid you're going to have to distance yourself. It is going to hurt at first, and it's going to be really hard. But you need to protect yourself in the long run. Try and distract yourself with your girlfriends and fake an interest in other guys. Eventually, if you fake for long enough it'll come true. And eventually, you should be able to be friends again.
I'm sorry this advice is so dismal, but I really hope everything works out for you xoxo
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