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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for two years. He was always a lovely person to be with and i always thought he was the one but lately hes changed.He will always call me hurtfull names and whenever he responds to be he uses the word slag instead of my name. Even to my face.He his just horrible to be with now. Its just upsetting me. All he will want is sex. He will come home and just demand me to do things to him. We never sit and chat anymore like we used to. He also acts really immature which just annoys me.I don't know if i should leave. I was so deeply in love with the old him, i just can't let it go. What should i do?Stay and hope he will change back to the man i feel in love with or leave.Please help.
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reader, tsubu01  +, writes (10 June 2010):
if he wasnt who he portrayed himself to be in the beginning, it was all an act to impress and for you to give in, and you did. Now he's changed and his true colors are showing. I say leave him or suffer. Up to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2010): He probably wants to end the relationship with you but is too cowardly to do it, so he's being an areshole tpo you so you'll do it and then he doesn't have to be the bad guy. But I agree with the others if he has suddenly morphed into this horrible person there is most definately a reason why?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 June 2010):
The old him was probably an act. Some people put on a great act sometimes, and it sounds like your boyfriend has revealed himself. This IS the real him, and though it sounds harsh, it's a good thing that this has happened now before you're married. Leave now.
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reader, powgotya +, writes (10 June 2010):
Hon, the old him has left the building. Nobody deserves this kind of misery, and you absolutely, positively need to get out of there before your remaining self esteem tanks. q1605's post expresses my feelings exactly - probably even better than I can do it myself, in fact. Throw this poison relationship on the trash pile and set fire to it. Sincere best wishes for a better life!
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reader, raiders +, writes (10 June 2010):
 Its hard to make a person changed, are you willing to stay around and take the abuse. I would suggest you took a glimpse to the future with his new behavior. Is this new him someone you can see yourself with. Look at things using this angle don't fool yourself thinking he will change back to the person he was.
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reader, smiley_1  +, writes (10 June 2010):
 Hello,
What he's doing is very direspectful to you. You don't deserve to be treated this way.
Have you outright asked him why this drastic change?
Its time to tell him you don't appreciate the way he's behaving towards you. Ask him why he's doing it.
If he can't treat you with respect he doesn't deserve you.
Talk to him if nothing changes its time to move on...
Good luck
;D
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reader, archidude  +, writes (10 June 2010):
well .. basicaly that kind of treatment means that a guy is fully done with you as a love material and now he is looking at you as he sees a way to get layed without any kind of effort .. basicaly men have hormons that are not stable at all and what they look for is a way to spread thier sperm !!
my advice .. if he still loves you then it would have stoped him from hurting u mentaly atleast !! but love is something that you have to work on to keep it alive and leaving would be the reasonable solution in ur situation !!
sorry !!
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (10 June 2010):
 Usually, behavior changes of this magnitude are clear indicators that something else is afoot, sweetie.
I'm betting a closer look will uncover a few ugly little facts. This is typical male behavior after having done the deed. He's probably been stepping to the side on you.
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