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writes:My girlfriend and me have been together for over 1 and 1/2 years. We have no sex. She doesnt even like to touch my penis naked. But I finger her alot. How can I tell her I want to do more?
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reader, tux +, writes (28 March 2008):
 Exactly, what Dee said. You need to communicate with her. Express your needs and find out why she feels uncomfortable about it. She obviously does not find you fingering her as uncomfortable because she is getting pleasure from it, we hope. Relationships are a 2-way street and cannot be 1-sided. I been there before where an ex just wanted me to give her oral all the time but would never give me anything.. It takes its toll. You need to talk to her and see where this is going. If it's fixable, great! If not, you may need to reconsider your relationship.
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reader, lildeesbg +, writes (28 March 2008):
 Have you and your current girlfriend had sex before? If so then there are many possibilities to consider, such as: she did not enjoying it, its painful for her, fear, she might want to become abstinant or other issues within your relationship.
If you and her have not had sex at all, then she might just not be ready.
Either way, you need to have a talk with her. A key !! component in any relationship is communication. Without that, your relationship will not go that far. YOu should be able to feel comfortable talking with each other and express your needs and desires (sexually or not sexually).
Just start the conversation when you two can have some privacy and start from there. If she is sensative and shy take that into consideration. By talking about issues within your relationship, will help you better understand each other, grow a stronger bond, and have even better sex because its more intimate. You might even find out things you never knew about your girlfriend.
~Dee
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