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writes:Hi, I had a small party and my closest friend at it wouldn't talk to me at all. He spent most of the night having a great time with another friend (their conversations were completely exclusive as well, so there was no way I could join in). He only said "hi" to me but was more excited to talk to my sister, who wasn't at the party, but just passed through.Then I asked him for a cigarette (because I had only my least favorite brand for the past two months, and two days before I bought him dinner and gave him as many smokes as he wanted- he didn't even ask towards the end)He said "No" and literally ran back to the other friend.This really hurt me,Am I overreacting?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 July 2014):
 Btw : Ooops,of course I meant Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid. What was I thinking of .
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (30 July 2014):
Yes. It was a party. It's supposed to be an occasion to mingle, to circulate, to socialize wth people you don't see all the time. The perfect occasion to break the Billy the Kid- Sundance Kid act, if there's a bit of that going on.
At your age , both guys and girls tend to have one best frend who is closest and always around, more like a couple than just friends. That's comfortng and reassuring in social situatons, but at the same time also a bit lame , and limiting with the opposite sex too . You can , and should , have a best friend without expecting to always be glued to his butt. Give each other space .
I don't like the cigarette thing, though, that's rude. ( Unless he was actually OUT of cigarettes ). Maybe he is a bit of a moocher. Don't offer him yours anymore. Smoke your owns , each one of you ( and of course, if you quit smoking, that's even better :).
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2014): Yes, you are overreacting. Unless you are both gay, don't act like a jealous boyfriend.
You can always ask your friend if there is anything you've done to piss him off?
Otherwise, he didn't feel obligated to spend all his time at the party with you. Maybe He had hoped to just mingle around, and keep some distance by giving you a little bit of a cold-shoulder. Maybe he feels you're crowding him, or cramping his style. Just back-off, and give him some space. Even if it means being distant for awhile. Be sure you're not trying to monopolize his time and attention.
I don't think he behaved very nice toward you, but don't get too upset about it. Sometimes people take you for granted; until you're not around at their beck and call.
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