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writes:i don't even know where to begin with my problem. I've been seening this guy for a year and a half now. I really love him but he has serious mood swings. For example I was supposed to meet him monday nite, i phoned him when he didn't come at the time he was meant to and I got a text and hour later to say he wasn't calling over, then on tuesday he texts me to say he was going out i text back and said fine. He then phones me that night in a foul mood. Last night I went for a meal with my friends and I met him in the pub and he was still really annoyed with me. I phoned him this morning and he said it was my fault all week that we hadn't seen each other and he was just plain nast on the phone to me. I got off the phone crying my eyes out and I sent him a text to say we were finished. Then I sent him another text to say we weren't finished and that I was really annoyed wit him and I would leave it up to him to contact me. God I feel really confused now and I don't know what to do about this situation.. I love him to bits and I don't want to loose him but I just cant handle this argueing over nothing... Please help!!!
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reader, Claire1984  +, writes (3 February 2007):
I know how you feel because I'm in the exact same situation and I know what it's like to think, this time i'm going to walk away and the next day be back together. My best advice is follow the advice of your friends, they are the best judge of what is right for you. My friends knew from day one my bf was going to treat me like s*it and although they put up with him they saw it long before I did, and were there when i walked and helped me not to go back.
Good luck - I know how hard it is x
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reader, Aunty Willow +, writes (2 February 2007):
This sounds almost abusive, his mood swings could be due to an addiction? how much do you know about him? maybe you could dig a little deeper. You could try contacting him and talking things through explain that he is hurting you, if he loves you he will be willing to change. Ultimately you deserve to be happy and if he cannot treat you properly you may be better off without him
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reader, AskEve +, writes (1 February 2007):
 Has he always been this way? Can you both usually talk? You need to talk with him and ask him what's going on? If this is just a recent thing that's started happening it may be that he's fed up with the relationship and wants to end it and in making things difficult and being angry with you will make YOU break up with him instead, but something is not right here.
Send him ONE text and tell him you don't know what you've done wrong but you do know you love him very much, if he doesn't get in touch with you within the next few days then you'll take it that it's over and move on.
Now if he DOES have feelings for you then he would respond. If he DOESN'T respond then I would forget him. If he hasn't got the decency to respond and at least give you an explanation why he's behaved the way he has then he's not worth it and he's playing games with you and if that's the case you're better off without him.
Eve
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (1 February 2007):
Ok. This is me and my boyfriends relationship. Except I am the nasty one lol. So i guess i can understand your boyfriends anger and moods because im also a very...short temperd person. I dont know how to describe it. The best thing to do, to stop the moods. Is dont go crawling back to him like you did when you told him you were finished then you wernt. Dont take his crap. DONT take it, the more you take the more he will give. He shouldnt blame you and i would be careful with him, you honestly never know when he might lash out. It really is a possibility. But like i said, the more crap you take from him the more he will give you. You need to put your foot down and make him realise what hes got. You can message me at time if you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for that, your so right.. I think I need to grow a back bone and just walk away from this mess
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (1 February 2007):
 I don't know who wrote the title, but it is appropriate. He sounds like a jerk. Your initial reaction was correct. Your text telling him you were finished should have been your last contact with him. You say you don't want to lose him. What's there to lose? An inconsiderate, self absorbed, a-hole? You aren't losing anything. Think about what you'll gain. . . your sanity, peace of mind, the opportunity to meet someone who treats you with respect.
Lose this loser.
Good luck!
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