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writes:I have been single for 2 years after my divorce.Why is everyone I meet or have a really strong chemistry and connection with is married or has a girlfriend. We end up just being friends, but it's hard because we both know that if he was single were would give it a chance.Then the single guys that are attracted to me are not my type and I have no interest in them.what is going on here. I am ready to have a relationship again but cannot find the right man who is available.All the ones that want me are unavailable..meaning taken. and the available ones I do not want to take.Is there something wrong with me or this is normal and part of the dating game.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): Sounds pretty damn normal to me.
Maybe try eHarmony, it seems to me that people on there are actually single, serious and looking for a real relationship, or at least more of them are than on other dating sites that are full of married men cruising the web for sex, or the ones you meet in bars.
Also, stop looking so hard for the right one. Go to places that you normally wouldn't go to, like art museums or bookstores, somewhere to meet men who would be a good match for you. Get involved in your community or voluntee
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): Sounds pretty damn normal to me.
Maybe try eHarmony, it seems to me that people on there are actually single, serious and looking for a real relationship, or at least more of them are than on other dating sites that are full of married men cruising the web for sex, or the ones you meet in bars.
Also, stop looking so hard for the right one. Go to places that you normally wouldn't go to, like art museums or bookstores, somewhere to meet men who would be a good match for you. Get involved in your community or voluntee
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (23 October 2009):
I feel the same way sometimes - but there's nothing wrong with either of us - it's just the nature of the beast. The dating game does seem to get harder as you get older - partly because there's less choice (all the best ones being married/comitted or gay) and partly because slightly older women are more sure of what they want and don't want to fart around with guys who are unsuitable.
Try not to worry (although I know it's easier said than done) and just enjoy the dating as best you can. Try accepting dates from a few guys who you may not think are exactly your thing and they might surprise you. But as satindesire suggests don't lower your standards too much!
And once in a while give the dating game a bit of a rest and chill out with friends.... it's too exhausting otherwise!
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