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*angerine Toffee
writes:So, I’ve been crushing on the guy down the hall at work for a couple of weeks now. We’ve never spoken, just bumped into each other now and again - never speaking nor smiling.Recently I met a lady from his office and asked who he was. She was lovely and told me that he was attached. No worries.The next day I went out to get some coffee, and I had to pass two men to get to the counter. I didn’t realise it was him until I stood back to wait for my order. He looked at me – and that was when the penny dropped. Oh dear.He spoke with the gentleman he was with – discussing work. And suddenly the first guy had to go because his coffee arrived. And that was when the guy came up to me and said hi.I was still unsure as to whether was the same person - he looked different. But once he started talking – broke the ice with small talk about the weather and joking about our office floor - I was sure it was him. We got talking and had a lovely conversation about our jobs, and the people we work with. He was lovely. I have not met a more composed, calm and charming man. There was no flirting of any sort. It was just a casual conversation.My coffee arrived...and he asked, “Do you have to go?”How could I say “yes”???So I stayed. And we carried on talking. When his coffee arrived we walked back to the office together. That’s when he said he was going away on business for a couple of days. And then a few minutes later he repeated it. Anyway, he walked me to my office and that was it. I knew very well he was taken. But why do I feel that there was more going on there??? I have never had a nicer time getting coffee before.SO anyway, I bumped into the lady from his office the next day, and she told me she told him, “The girl next door thinks you’re cute!” And he begged for her to tell him who. She didn’t. There are heaps of women on our floor. BUT...He came straight to me. He didn’t even hesitate. He was extremely confident when he spoke with me. Did he know??? Have a slight inkling???SO here’s the thing... he’s not available – clearly... so why the friendliness?? And whyyyyy tell me that you’re going away for a few days????Did I miss something... again?!?!?!
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reader, Tangerine Toffee +, writes (2 August 2010):
Tangerine Toffee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi everyone,I think I forgot to mention he’s is officially off the market.I never did notice his wedding band up until the coffee shop. I definitely checked - and he didn't have it on during previous encounters. I did check. At this point it’s innocent. And it needs to stay that way. I have no intention of taking it any further. A casual business friendship. If more is being offered I’d like to know, because the earlier I can discourage him – the better. Thank you all for your comments. Fishdish – I don’t think that comment was an invite – it seemed to me that it was more him telling me he will be away for a while – so that would be why I wont see him for an extended period of time. That’s my theory?!Talkinghelps – Massaging his ego was the best way to put it!Thank you! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): gosh who cares he's got a girlfriend unless you intend to be his whore on the side then why pay attention. He's just massaging his ego.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (1 August 2010):
 hey I don't really see what the other poster's seeing, I think it's innocent enough at this point! maybe you should make sure with him instead of through this other lady who could have her eyes on him also, that he is indeed attached. try not to read into 'i'm going out of town' comment (or double comment), so you don't end up being the other woman if he is involved (unless you don't care). I think it's too much to say that was an invitation. maybe you could be his next girlfriend, but for now I'd keep the friendship business casual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): Ummm... this is quite a sophisticated event.
But overall, I think something is wrong with him. He has a big problem. I don't know what it is. But I advice you to stay away from him. He might seem to be lovely, but behind it lye's a big secret.
Hope you get to know the truth soon, Good Luck!
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