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writes:The girl I'm currently seeing has a very high sex drive. Yesterday, we had sex four times, and if she had gotten her way, we would have had it even more than that! Obviously I can't complain too much, as there have been times in my life where I have been without sex for long periods of time, and it makes me very miserable. But now I find myself rejecting her advances, because my erections are painful such a short time after sex.Why is her sex drive so high? Is it normal for guys to be unable to have sex again after only a couple of hours? Please help!
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reader, leo3  +, writes (23 September 2009):
 listen, i am like your girlfriend and my most recent ex was like you. i had no idea it was getting painful for him to have to recover so quickly and just assumed he was always enjoying it. just explain to her what you said here and she'll more then likely understand and try to make sure you have enough time between sex. if you think that she might be unsatisfied if you dont have sex with her as much as she'd like, then just take care of her in different ways when shes horny.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 September 2009):
Some people have high libidos, some don't. To be fair, this girl might be doing it all the time because she thinks that it's all guys are interested in. Sit the girl down and gently explain to her that although you enjoy sex with her, youu'd also like to get to know her out of the bedroom and do other things. If that doesn't work, then maybe you're not suited to each other. But certainly talk to her first.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (23 September 2009):
 It could be that she has a sex drive higher than most, but there could be other reasons too. It maybe that she is insecure or inexperienced at relationships and thinks that having sex all the time will keep you interested in her. If you are new into the relationship then sex can be very interesting as it is a new partner etc, but it may fade with time. If you feel that it is too much then you should perhaps tell her it is quality, not quantity that is important! Communication is the key to a happy relationship so sit her down when she isn't trying to jump on you and have a word about your concerns. She maybe relieved to hear that she doesn't have to behave like a wild animal to keep your attention.
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reader, patient66  +, writes (23 September 2009):
Hello : )
Everyones Libido is different. Hers happens to be higher. This is touchie because if you reject too much she might start to feel you dont want her anymore.
It is normal for a man not to be able to perform after two hours. It depends on the men and how many times you already had sex that day as well.
I would just try to explain to her how you feel about it. especially if you are in pain after so many advances, it becomes not fun for you anymore.
See how she feels about it. She might even be having sex with you this much because she thinks you want that.
Hope this Helps
Good Luck xo
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