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writes:I have a problem. I asked this girl out ages ago but she said no, but eventually we became sort of friends (we talke etc.) The problem is that I have ulterior motives. She is in the year below me at high school but I'm taking a year out before I go to uni, which I got into after yesterday. However when out with my friends, I started feeling weepy because I felt I may never see her again, although we might still see each other at parties. I've tried texting her twice but she never replied. I can't see my life without her. Can anyone help me?
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reader, seducer-674 +, writes (19 August 2006):
i all comes down to priorities buddy. would you consider leaving Uni for her? but then again would she want you to do that? becoming friends with a girl first complicates things aswell as you may become too attached, there being platonic to her. the worst thing to do is to pressure her. if your texting/ringing her often she will be mroe and mroe put off. i know its hard because i know your feelings for her are overwelming, but if you leave it a couple weeks she might think "oh, he hasnt text me in a while. i wonder how he is and why he hasnt been giving me the same attention,maybe i should give him some in return". if it's meant to be then it will happen. loves a slow process, it was never meant to be rushed.
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reader, Juliette +, writes (19 August 2006):
 I know it really feels bad, but the more you try the more she is likely to not respond. Either she just does not fancy you which is nothing against you, or she is with someone else, or maybe she is too shy to say yes. If you see her at parties etc then it is probably better to keep your distance from her and when your paths do cross, if they do, just be yourself. If it is meant to be it will happen. Your ulterior motives must be kept at bay as they are working against you. I know because I am doing exactly the same thing and know how hard it is when you are for someone you cannot be with.
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