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writes:i have recently split from a relationship that i have a disabled child with of 4years. i met someone else and rushed into things quite quickly.i love my new lover to pieces and am happy with him, my son loves him too. my new lover recently proposed to me and i accepted, when my ex found out he told me how he really felt and that i have hurt him bad. im all he thinks about and that he misses his son deeply. my ex was a brilliant boyfriend but i did hurtful things to gim and was never truthful, i felt like i was lying to myself by being with him saying iloved him when i didnt feel strongly about him the way i do bout my new love. the last week or so, i have had my ex on my mind loads and feel sorry for what i have done. i care about him alot and i dont like it when he's upset has it hurts me too! i am deeply confused and dont know what to do? i cant go to my family for answers or support has this was all a shock to them when me and my ex split.should i try and rebuild my old relationship or should i stick to my new one??
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reader, Six_Floors_Left  +, writes (20 August 2009):
 i messed up in the 1st sentence of my answer. i meant wouldn't, not would. sorry
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reader, Six_Floors_Left +, writes (20 August 2009):
If your ex wanted you back bad enough he would have waited until you where engaged with another man to tell you how he felt. You have made it this far in your new relationship without knowing how ur ex felt. A relationship built on regret and sorrow will never last. If he wasnt hurt then you wouldnt have any reason to take him back. Dont sacrifice the relationship you already have because i can promice you that you will regret it when it ends. Hope this helps!
~SFL
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reader, starfairy +, writes (20 August 2009):
 Who do you want to be with in 60 years' time?
Maybe you rushed into things...But what's done is done.
Are you just feeling guilty for hurting your ex?
Could you stay with someone you don't love?
Go with your gut feeling.
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