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writes:okay I'm 25 years old 6'3 brown hair not fat and workout and I have low self esteem due to being made fun of in school for being russian or whatever but when I was like 16 and walked around the streets girls always honked or yelled hey baby or something almost whenever I wlked it happened at least 3 times a day now I still always get girls looking at me and if I look at them they smile or sometimes say hi so about a week ago I went to subway and there was a hot girl I saw looking at me so I looked at her and she quickley looked away then I kinda kept eyeing her and she almost had a smile and when it was my turn to order she sounded very nervous and didn't make sense which is how I am around hot girls then in the end I said thank you and she said have a nice day and we looked into each others eyes for about 5 seconds and I felt like we had something there but then started to think maybe she just got scared because she's 18 and I'm 21 and god forbid if she was 1 year younger in this society so did I come out creepy or does she like me I consider my self a nice guy I also have a little business and drive a fast car well good luck with your anwsers
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reader, Six_Floors_Left +, writes (21 August 2009):
 Dont worry about the odds of stuff like that. Just assume that shes single and interested and start talking to her. If shes not interested then thats that. And next time why dont you just ask her age instead of assuming that shes 17 or 18. I hung out with a really hot girl who i thought was maybe 15 and i was talking about her to my friend who was 14 and she said it was her mother. She was in her 30s! What im saying is that just because she looks young doesnt mean that she is and even if she is that doesnt mean that shes not interested.~SFL
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reader, r34 +, writes (21 August 2009):
r34 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks everyone for your help I do however still feel confused about how she feels because I consider my self kinda scary looking because I'm 6'3 russian and because I'm nervous around people because my face looks angry and feel like a nerd all at the same time, because when I was very young I had no friends but then at about 14-15 I had russian friends which in my oppinion were pretty good people but we were bored so we did bad stuff like skip school shoplift and steal cars just to drive them but my parents are really religious christian people so they made sure I never hanged out with them but only people from my church which I never got along with because I always felt like they judged me to much so I basically didn't have friends so I felt like a nerd and now I have friends around my workplace but I never really kept in touch with my old friends do to them being in gangs drugs jail or succesful and married so I still am confused about my appearance I even had a 80k car and felt like I could get any girl because everyone would always stare at me but depending how I dress and say at the fair girls look at me much less or not at all but everywhere else I always get eye contact I know I'm not creepy looking but my face expressions sometimes are so back to the subway girl since she's 18 but looks even 17 and I'm 25 so that's why I feel creepy like everyone thinks I'm a pedophile because in this society you can't even look twice at a teenager . so my question now is if I felt a connection what are the odds of her looking at a guy for 5 seconds after she said have a nice day and I said you to, if he was 50 or just not attracted to him and also she didn't have a " do you have a question " kinda face so that's my question hope you anwser and if I sound alittle crazy its cause I am
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reader, VirginMaster  +, writes (21 August 2009):
 What you felt is commonly called chemistry.
I just want to ask you - how would she know how old you are?
She probably thought you were cute.
And please! age doesn't matter. If i was allowed to swear i'd say f***k age because my fiance is 23 and i'm 19.
You should've asked her if you can't buy her a cup of coffee, and then take her number, or something!
Learn to be yourself, find yourself, remember the girls who called out those things to you - they did it because they thought you are hot. and they don't know you were made fun of at school.
If you ever see her again, take her for coffee - a single cup of coffee and a date at a club a few days later has left my bed hot many, many times. and that was two years ago. I found the perfect girl on the internet. she was a 1000 miles away from me. but now, after we met up and dated for a year, we're engaged and going for our 1st anniversary in decmeber. trust me. when we met for the first time in real life we were scared and nervous as hell and shy and clumsy and everything. but after that. the first few days. it was like we'd always known eachother. hehe. she just giggled at what i typed cause she's sitting here.
(she laughed when she read your article and i told her it isn't funny!) cause it isn't. get over your fear and nervousness.
remember sometimes girls like it when you're nervous and don't know what to say or do the first time you come into contact with them, because it shows that they have your full attention and that you got crushed with them.
Even now, do you still think about the girl in Subway? and about what could've happened if you didn't just look? but talked more?
Learn to talk to girls. when you talk. they listen more, especially if you know they like you and you like them back.
Oh, Leo (my fiance) wishes you luck.
Come back to me on this
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reader, Six_Floors_Left +, writes (21 August 2009):
Encounters like this happen every day. Unfortunately most often neither of the people involved have the courage to take it any further. If you think that you might have a chance with her then go for it. Go back to subway and if she's there try starting a convorsation with her. Just ask her for her opinion on something because most wimen love giving their female opinions. You could ask her a few simple questions like how long she's worked there. Make sure to keep your feet shoulder length apart and dont shift your weight from side to side. Make sure that you get ur order to go and when you've paid just look at her and say thanks. Make sure its your real smile to. Most guys end up fake smiling which is never good. After that just walk out.
Wait a day or two and go to subway again. Start another convorsation with her and maybe talk about a thing or two from your previous convorsation. At the end of the convorsation say that you're in a hurry and have to go to (wherever youre going). Ask her if you can have her number so you can talk some more later. If she doesnt give it to you then shes probably not interested. If she does then, well then she is. Keep me posted!
~SFL
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reader, CaliGrown09 +, writes (21 August 2009):
 You having a business or driving a fast car has nothing to do with her liking you.. unless she's scandelous. Just wanted to put that out there sense that was the last thing I read on here. 18 and 21 years old are not that much far apart and plus she wouldn't know your age if you didn't tell her, so it couldn't be that. The whole looking at each other thing is a connection however. So yes, she probably liked you. You should go to that subway more often & see her. Having someone coming into your work to say hi is always nice & a good start. Hope I helped :)
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