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writes:Hello, to put it this way, I proposed to my Girlfriend, She said no, but she says she still wants to be lovers, I want to take it to a next level, and she's rejecting, we've been dating for 7 years, this isn't the first time I proposed and not the first time she said no, I'm starting to get confused, or paranoid, I just can't seem to understand, I talked to her several times on this subject, she says she's ready but doesn't know, I go paranoid sometimes and think "Is she with another guy???"then I say, "No way, or else she'd be honest." but then I think that our sexual life, has gotten a lot less active these days, I'm starting to get worried, and hurt if she's not loyal... Any help? Reply to this Question
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reader, kahlan  +, writes (21 August 2009):
 Perhaps she is happy with the way things are.She is maybe worried incase it would ruin things if you were to be married. Only she can give her reasons. You said you talked to her.What does she mean when she said she,s ready but didnt know?A lot of people think that they dont need a bit of paper to say that they love each other.I dont think just because she wont get married that she is seeing someone else.As to your sex life it is normal after being together a while that the sex slows down. I actually wrote in yesterday for tips on how to get some spice into my sex life. I got some good answers. I basically got told to try some new things to get the spark back.If your sex life slowing down is recent,maybe your girlfriend is worried about something.If i were you, id have another talk with her and find out if something is bothering her.Good Luck.Kahlan.
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reader, ForeverN_Always +, writes (21 August 2009):
dang... ok i know im a lil too young to give a good answer, but still im gonna. deal with it. :) anywhoooo i think that, if youve been together for such a long time, but she isnt ready to commit, theres no point in going on with the relationship. theres a reason to why she wont say yes. i dont know what it is (or else id tell of course XD) but still, if its been that long and she still doesnt settle down, its not worth it.im not much help, i know. but im a little young so ... yea :) hope it helps a little.
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