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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi. The long distance relationship ended after a year. We have no contact for months and last week, she called. We have great conversation and out of blue, she said she miss me. There is no official statement but I think we are back together.I love her but I believe we both know we are not going to make it. The break up problem is never solve.She talked about her life and I found out it is going well. It is strange, I feel she can get better guy than me. I want the best for her.I wonder, maybe she is afraid of lonely that is why she call. She has a kid with her x but I believe that will not stop other nice guys to have a serious relationship with her.With our huge age gap, I purposely told her my long term plan. I think I upset her. I am actually testing her and will be delighted if she says anything showing it is fine to her. Unfortunately, it makes myself guilty and miserable.In terms of wealth and work, she is way better than me. I wish I could know if she is sure she needs me.I want to marry her but I am too afraid to go through the break up again. If that is the way, I prefer to have her as my friend so I can know how is she from time to time.If only I live in her country and have the money. I am so confused now. Maybe a girl can understand better how she feel? What should I do?Thank you.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 October 2009):
You need to work on your own self esteem. If you keep thinking that you're not good enough and that she can find better, she's going to think you don't love her enough. Why don't you try counselling to understand why you feel this way, and spoeak to the woman and talk the relationship slowly. You need to work on your own self esteem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2009): Distance relationship never works. i went through hell being in love with someone who lives 400kms away from my place. leave her and get going with your life. Your story sounds similar to mine. besides, you won't be able to cover this class difference so there's no point in punching in the air.Best of luck!
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