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writes:What do girls think when they see a decent-looking guy with a fat, ugly girlfriend? What do they assume about him?I'm pretty sure that if a guy is seen with a hot girl, people think he must be something special. So is it the opposite if he's with an ugly girl? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2011): I don't think men care about such things. Its usually the women that do. Which is why I get along better with dudes. I cant get caught up in the b*tchery of some women.
There are a few men who I have met that sit and people watch and say nasty comments about others and I would be shocked that anyone could do this. Its entertainment? I usually drop such people from my life. Negativity and ugliness are symptoms of severe unhappiness. They project that crap outwards. *shudders* I find it unnatural and gives me the jeebies for sure.
I remember saying Celine Dion was a woofer. I never saw that. She's beautiful and talented and her warm and genuine personality just radiates from her.
I don't see what is so special about Julia Roberts other than she has great skin.
To each their own. And the inner beauty of a person, shines forth and I think that is what attracts people who measure a true worth of an individual over the outer appearance.
I find its other, seeminly attractive females tend to give you ice cold stares if you are attractive- like you are a threat to them. That, is tragic sack of skin right there.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 December 2011):
 who am I to judge other people's taste?
Maybe to him she's not fat and ugly... maybe to him she is the most wonderful, supportive, loving woman in the world.
Personally when I see a guy with a hot girl I figure he has money.... HOT girls can be so shallow...
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 December 2011):
 I don't know how shallow people judge it (if I can dare to think I am not shallow myself), but I am fairly confident that shallow people are only concerned about themselves and their own well being.
When others view people like that they end up at the old saying "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". I don't want to be mean, but I know a couple where the girl is.. well, less attractive, to put it that way. But she's a gem of a person, and she can't control how she looks, that genetics, and not up to her. She's lively and outgoing and bubbly and a delight to talk to, and she's got a boyfriend now of 7 years who looks handsome, although I've never met him in person. I think that people stick together not because someone is hot or not, but for who they actually are underneath. The less attractive part in a relationship is just as likely to leave the more physically attractive part, because maybe the physically attractive one isn't attractive in all other areas.
Personally I don't think it says much, if anything at all, about a person just based on the looks who who they date. You got to get to know people before you can say anything about who they are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2011): i always think how nice. a good looking guy, not minding the appearance of a girl:) ..or maybe that's exactly what he wants. I'm no one to judge, i just love seeing people together no matter what, cause they look happy & its cute 3
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reader, peacelovecandy +, writes (4 December 2011):
 When I see really attractive guys with really unattractive girls, I usually just smile because they're happy with their girlfriends. Some look very unhappy, however, and I think that may be because their unattractive girlfriends treat them like crap. Maybe the guy has better looking girl friends than his actual girlfriend. I dunno - usually when I see them together, though, I like to think that they're just accepting each other for who they are. He doesn't see her like everyone else might, and that's good to know. I've dated some unattractive people and gotten a lot of comments on it, but I liked the way they treated me over their looks. It all depends! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2011): I always wonder about what couples see in each other, no matter who they are and what they look like. Other people's relationships are a complete mystery to me, and it's fun to speculate. The pair that you describe isn't that outrageous, there are much stranger couples out there
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 December 2011):
 I guess it doesn't bother me at all. I don't think anything about it really. I would assume (if I were to "judge" the situation), that she has one heck of a personality. And that HE is a dude who isn't shallow and superficial.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2011): The other woman may not be fat or ugly to him.
I do know people that "judge a book by the cover" and it is a shame they are that shallow.
Fortunately, I do know people who see the worth of person of someone beyond their appearance.
You are asking what do others think? Maybe you should be asking yourself what YOU think about the matter?
As for me, if I see an "Average" looking man with a "less attractive" woman. I look at their faces and if they look like they are having a good time; I smile.
Life is too short. If you care about someone; SPEND time with them!
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (4 December 2011):
 What you have to remember OP is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so what you think of as fat and ugly may not be the same as other people.
Also, being a good looking guy does not always mean a good looking personality. They can often be arrogant, self centred and vain.
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reader, Elydiese +, writes (4 December 2011):
I would have to wonder why the guy would call his girlfriend fat and ugly in the first place as its so vile and disrespectful i'd say he was an arse and she deserves better, but if i did see a couple as you described them walking through the town i wouldnt think anything of it, its none of my business and they dont mean anything to me
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 December 2011):
 I think nothing special. Because I know that the decent looking guy does not SEE an ugly fat girlfriend beside himself. He sees a voluptuous rubenesque sexbomb with unique, distinctive facial traits. If he'd see her as too fat and ugly, I don't think he'd date her to begin with. Luckily everybody has a different vision of what is attractive/esthetically acceptable and some people's visions are just more inclusive than others'.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (4 December 2011):
 Hi,
I think your question is funny.
In my opinion people that are intelligent, and good would never judge a couple by their looks. It shows their level of character, and their opinion should not matter at all.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2011): I have seen many handsome boys with fat girls(even girls that don't look good). Then I always think "How beautiful that guy's mind is!!!!". External beauty is just an illusion.It has nothing to do with love or real life matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2011): i worry that when a decent looking girl like me comes around, that it might make her jealous, i dont like to make girls uncomfortable like that because i know how it feels when im not the hottest in the crowd.. just being honest
so in my opinion, we arent thinking about the guy here, were thinking about the girl who has no choice but to look like that. i feel bad because that guy could mean the world to her and she might not feel confident about having him considering looks have become so important now days
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2011): I honestly just wonder why he doesn't choose better and feel kind of sorry for the girl because I feel like there's probably so many girls that he would rather be seen with than her. =/ Not proud of it, but it's the truth.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (4 December 2011):
Honestly, I wouldn't be bothered by either scenario as long as they appear happy with one another.
Some people like their partner to be heavier than average.
Others genuinely love the person inside and aren't put off by an enterior that does not fit the standards of conventional beauty.
Other women gain weight that is impossible to lose because of a medical condition (she was running on an elliptical 2 hours a day and eating one or two little meals and her weight stuck at 250 lbs due to medication for her thyroid condition...my father didn't seem to notice) and their partners still love them for who they are.
I think the couple in the scenario needs to not worry so much about what others think of them, but how they feel about one another.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2011): He may not see a fat, ugly girl as you put it, he may just see the woman he loves. I actually think to myself that he has found someone who he loves and sees something special in. But then I don;t really give it that much thought, just like I don't think much about why a good looking woman is a ugly little man. I just think they are more mature than most!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 December 2011):
 Actually, I wonder what a decent looking guy is doing with a fat, ugly girlfriend.
In my opinion, it look suspicious. Like as if it's a dare, experiment for school, out of pity, etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2011): i wonder how he goes about making her feel good about herself...
if i see a guy with an attractive girl, i dont think of him as something special.. i usually think of him as someone who wouldnt be happy with an average girl like me.. we females dont want a guy with a bunch of ex's that are 20 times hotter then us.
if i see a guy with an ugly girl.. i think of him as guy who cares about more then looks, which is something alot of girls are looking for now days, and are probably more happy to compete with
i think its natural for a person to compare them selves with the opposite sex's taste.. its human nature i guess
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