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writes:How hard is it to Orgasm? I am 17 and my bf's cousin is one of those girls that is just filled with sex stories. She said that she had her first Orgasm at 16 ... (mind you her bf was 24) she says it's easy. But really what are your girls experiences. I am really curious on how hard it really is to achieve one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): Took my wife years to get comfortable with me and to let loose in bed, and she had a lot of partners before me, way outside my experience realm, and never had orgasms with anyone till she reached that with me.
I never expected it to happen, but she got more comfortable with me after some counseling she had and it was like turning on a light switch...now she's kind of selfish trying to make up for lost time.
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reader, Shortwife +, writes (19 January 2011):
Will respond to this as a married for 20 years male. First off don't rush it the one person said it right your head has to be in the right place first off. Your young lover no doubt is inexperienced as we all were at that age and maybe selfish about his own desires. It might takes years with a partner to figure each other out as It did with my wife and I and don't think it will happen every time for most women that is not the case. But don't get discouraged more foreplay lots of licking or cliffy action, before intercourse. Most women will not orgasm just from penetration. For what it worth that is my experience and I have had MANY partners before my wife, so kind of an old dog in this field. So nothing wrong with you patience have fun it will CUM!
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (19 January 2011):
 This is a very "it depends" question to answer.
Orgasming has nothing to do with the size of your clit.
I had my first orgasm when I was 10 after I got a tv in my room, watched a late night educational sex program and learned what orgasms were and how women please themselves.
I used my electric vibrating toothbrush (not the brush) to bring me to orgasm thousands of times over 6 years until I was old enough to buy a real vibrator.
Despite that, I have never had a g-spot orgasm and a man has never given me an orgasm. I don't think I even have a g-spot!
Sex is still very enjoyable with my OH, sex isn't just about an orgasm.
You need to get to know yourself first. Invest in a good cheap vibrator, know where you like to be touched.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): I did not have my first one until late 20's!! Your head has to be in the game, at least for me it does. Everything has to be in sync. You have to be very comfortable with the guy. It's easier for some women than others. My full proof position to have one is the guy is spooning me while he is inside of me I hump his leg. Works like a charm. You need to know your body better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): There is a difference between a Gspot orgasm and a clitoral orgasm... Gspot is much easier and faster to achieve if you can get to the spot ;P
Clitoral is harder, it's usually easier to achieve whilst masturbating than with a guy doing it.
I was having sex for 2 years before the first time i masturbated and I can't say honestly had an orgasm of any kind before that. Once I did it was much easier to achieve with my guy who was more then willing to learn what I liked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): it took me ages to enjoy sex with my boyfriend and finally when i started feeling totally comfortable around him it started to feel good. I have had an oragsm twice with him but it has only ever been through oral sex. I guess it just takes time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): It really depends on the girl and maybe even the partner. Personally, I find it easy to orgasm through masturbation. With my ex, it rarely happened. With my current boyfriend, it happens almost every time. The strength of the orgasms also differ. I've had women tell me they have never had one, and there are women who can orgasm just through foreplay or even just teasing. Everything just depends on your mindset, your body, positions, and maybe your partner.
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reader, lovepink77  +, writes (19 January 2011):
 Ok...so first off DO NOT beat yourself up over this. I'm 23 years old and didn't get my first "O" until I was 19 and I was all by myself! Also a lot of people may rarely, if not ever has had one during intercourse....only by themselves.It all depends though. Everyone is different,but the one way that most girls I know do to achieve their first one is stimulation...not any type of insertion if that makes sense.You have to be very relaxed and not be afraid of what's "building up" down there. When it gets past a certain point, it will happen and you will know it the first time believe me! I hope this helps!
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (19 January 2011):
Women are all different... some can have an orgasm very easily just within a few minutes of a guy inserting her with his penis. However, MOST woman, require a lot of foreplay, and stimulation to the clitoris and still don't orgasm purely by a penis.
Try experimenting with yourself, masturbating is natural and it will help you find out what does it for you. The worst thing you can do, is lie there willling yourself to come, because it just wont't work.. relax, and enjoy the moment.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): I think it has a bit to do with the size of the clit?...I only say this as I have multiple orgasms and even get them from merely walking, especially if I'm sporting jeans...I guess you could say, I'm well hung for a female" if there's even there's such a saying.
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