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writes:My boyfriend and I (both 16) broke up 2 days ago after 6 months. It was somewhat mutual. We decided to meet and talk it out. He said his perspective on love changed, and he didn't love me like he did before. I said that I've been waiting 2 months for one of us to say it, because I don't feel like I'm in a relationship with him either. Though I think I felt it, deep inside, I wished he had worked harder in the relationship. We agreed to look back and smile at our time together. He said that if we meet when we're 20 and fall in love, we'd be alot more experienced and make this work. And we had one last kiss. Which turned into making out... and at one point he looked me in the eyes and went "I'm really gonna miss you " and I said the same in response. Just as we were leaving, he tells me "You never know, we might be back together in a month, and THEN we'd know that this is true love" That's messed me up :(Now I'm looking back at all the great times we had and missing them terribly. I wish he was still with me, and what he said has put some hope in me. But it looks like he's moved on... the day after we broke up, he went to the movies with these 2 slutty 13 year olds.He's changed his style, his hair, his clothes in the last 2 months we were together, and getting more looks from girls, so I suppose that the real reason for the breakup was that he wants to get into the open field, so he can have fun flirting, which he didn't get to before (he's not exactly amazingly good looking).What do I do now? Move on? Stay a while? Hope he'll realize he's flirting with 13 year olds and come back to me?Thanks
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reader, Juanita  +, writes (31 August 2008):
I think that those last words he said about getting together was his way of trying to softn the breakup. Unfortunately you took it to heart. At 16 i doubt he is going to realise his mistake. He seems to be enjoying his freedom and the attention he is receiving. Its time for you to accept that its over. That you are 16 and will probably go through another breakup before you're 18. That there wil always b a someone new for you too. And you'll be like whatever did i see in that jerk. Trust me you wil be fine.
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reader, shiraz  +, writes (31 August 2008):
hiyah, this must be a bad time for you but surely his actions after your relationship make you greatful for getting out sooner rather than later. now you have seen him for this 'new' person he wants to be. let him get on with it, you cant live your life waiting for somebody whos not even certain there coming back and even if he did return in 20 years hes already changed in a day, in 20 years he will not be the person you onced loved. its really hard but the best thing you can do is move on , he obviuosly has and has not given your feelings a second thought,showing he dont love you i know its really hard to deal with but you will get through it and come out the stringer person.
Dont lower yourself to his level, set your sights higher, eventually he will get bord and want you back you will be too busy enjoying a life with somebdy who loves you back to even notice him
good luck =)
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (31 August 2008):
 he has moved on and so should you...
he just wants to have fun,and if he wants to back to get back to you well don't! cause you will show him that he could get you whenever he wants to and the get rid of you simply the same way.. you will get over him..soon..he is hooking up with 13 year olds! that shows how immature he is!
you can do better than him:(
good luck XXXXXand please take care
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