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writes:In October of 2002, I moved from The San Francisco Bay Area, back to my hometown of Dallas Texas. In November I got a job at the wonderful world of Wal-Mart (said sarcastically) I worked back in receiving, my job was a soft-lines processor. I was responsible for getting all of the clothing, that came in on the trucks, ready to be put out on the floor. My second day on the job, I met a guy. He seemed like a very nice guy, and very mature for only being 24. He seemed also to be very intelligent, I didn't understand why he was unloading trucks for Wal-Mart. He was painfully shy, and borderline agoraphobic. He was very uncomfortable around crowds of people that he didn't know, and especially around females. However, there was some kind of chemistry between us, and for some reason he felt like he could lower the walls a little and trust me, so a friendship began. He got off two hours before I did, so when I got home he would be online, and we would chat. He had a relationship end badly a year or two prior to meeting me, and I had just ended a twenty-one year marriage, so neither one of us wanted anything other then friendship. I was also sixteen years older then him, although at the time he did not know that. He was under the impression that I was only two or three years older then he was. When I set him straight, on the matter, it did not seem to be an issue. His family was Pentecostal, and he was brought up in a very strict, sheltered environment. He saw me as this slightly feisty redhead, with a little bit of a wild side, who might be fun to hang out with for a while. Neither one of us had any intentions of allowing a relationship to develop, but we could not ignore the fact that we had this chemistry between us. We had not even been on a date yet, when people at work started putting us together as a couple. Though we were just friends, and our relationship was strictly platonic, he seemed to take great pleasure in spoiling me. He treated me differently then any other guy I had ever been with. I couldn't help but think that if he was treating me this well when I was only a friend, imagine how I would be treated as a girlfriend. It was obvious to me that he was brought up very well. He had a very strong positive male influence in his life, and he knew how to treat a woman. He got off at midnight, and I got off at 2 AM, so he started picking me up after work some nights. Sometimes we would go out to Denny's and play cards for awhile. That was basically the extent of our time together until late June of 2003. I was off on Tuesdays and Wednesdays, and he was off on Sundays and Wednesdays. One Tuesday night I was at home, doing some things online, and he signed into AIM. I was surprised to see him. He was supposed to be at work, it was only 10 PM. He said they let all the unloaders go home early, and he wanted to know if I would like to go to a movie. I was actually quite surprised he asked, and of course I said yes. From there we started going out some on Wednesday nights. We would go to dinner, to movies, and sometimes we would go bowling. He started picking me up after work, more and more, and we would also go out then. Usually to Denny's to have a bite to eat, and play cards. Sometimes we would go romping around a cemetery, I love to hang out in cemeteries in the middle of the night. In October, my schedule changed, and we now worked the same shift. He then started picking me up for work, as well. He started coming over to my apartment after work, and we would watch movies all night. I also started cooking for him on Tuesdays. Wal-Mart was basically right down the street, so he would come over on his lunch break, and I would have dinner ready.In November of 2003, I met his parents, and they were wonderful. I told him over and over how lucky he was to have such a cool family. Then around thanksgiving our relationship changed. It seemed we were no longer just platonic friends. Even though we still considered ourselves free to see other people, we started showing affection. That December I lost my Internet connection, due to some financial problems. The time we would both normally be online, we started spending together. After awhile I didn't miss my Internet, and decided not to even bother getting it back. In March of 2004, I started going to church with him on Wednesday nights, and spending time with his family. In April of 2004 we realized we could no longer hide our feelings under a guise of friendship. We shared how we felt about each other, and began to entertain the possibility of having a future together. For the last several months I had also been encouraging him to get out of Wal-Mart. He had a college degree, and a brain, and needed to be using them. Since he was now considering marriage, for the first time in his life, he decided that would be a good idea. In May of 2004 he met my parents, and it was all good. His family liked me, my family liked him, everything was falling into place. At that point though, we didn't really have any set plans. We just knew that we loved each other, and would one day get married. Neither one of us were really in any big hurry. We went though the summer just enjoying each other, and enjoying the new relationship. On November 23 2004, in the middle of a wicked Texas thunderstorm, he got down on his knees in the pouring rain, and placed a beautiful engagement ring on my finger. With my love of storms, that was the most romantic proposal ever! I was so happy, I had the man of my dreams. He and his family saw to it that I had the wedding of my dreams, and my parents saw to it that I had the honeymoon of my dreams. On April 16 2005, in a romantic fairytale like ceremony, in front of one hundred close friends and family, we were married. A week later we boarded The Carnival Cruise Line's "The Elation" in Galveston Texas, and took a wonderful eight day trip through The Caribbean. I can't recall any other time in my life that I was ever this happy. We've been married now for over seven years, and he still spoils me rotten. He calls me "his" princess, and he treats me as such. We have the kind of relationship that people say only exists in fairytales.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (16 July 2012):
Hi. Yes, I agree.
I never had children - not by choice though - I was unable to conceive.
And I never missed being a parent, as like your man, I have watched both nieces and nephews grow up, on both my side and my husband's side, so I enjoyed all the fun of babies and children, without the responsibility.
It is probably the best of both worlds.
And I absolutely loved it.
I'm glad you did talk about that before you got married, which means you both went into married life already knowing what you both wanted - and that's important.
You had a clear picture.
And yes, I agree also, that there are many many things you definitely could not do, if there were children.
So it does give you many opportunities that otherwise probably wouldn't have happened until the children were all left the house.
And by that time, you would be approaching retirement, or else retired.
It gives you complete freedom!
And you can enjoy all those holidays and experiences, while you are both still young and healthy.
And that's a really great feeling.
And not to mention, without children, you also have a lot more money in your wallet as well.
Children can be very expensive!
All the very best for a wonderful life together!
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (16 July 2012):
ImmortalPrincess is verified as being by the original poster of the question We discussed children at great length before we got married. He never wanted them, That's one of the reasons we fir so well together. We love the spontaneous lifestyle we're able to have, because we don't have little ones to be responsible for. I have a daughter from my fist marriage, and she has a two year old son. He's crazy about both of them, and he also has nieces he's crazy about. He says he has it perfect, he gets to spend all the time with them he wants, spoil them all rotten and then send them home to their parents.
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (15 July 2012):
Hi there. Congratulations to both of you!
You seem well suited.
Do you think that he will ever want children, and have you talked about it yet?
If you haven't so far, it might be wise to do so, just in case he does want them.
You are now probably approaching menopause, and so if you do want children yourself, you would need to be trying for pregnancy now.
You both need to be on the same page regarding having children, if you want to start a family with him.
Because there could come a time where his fatherly instincts start to come into play, so you need to be ready for when that time comes.
Talk about it now, rather than later, so it's clear what yours and his intentions are.
You are so happy together, and most times when you have a really great relationship, well then the next step is usually to want children together.
So for that reason, you need to discuss it - sooner rather than later.
It would be much better for you to bring up the subject now, rather than to hope he never brings it up, and then assume he doesn't want children.
Don't make assumptions at all - just clear things up now, before it does become a problem later on.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (13 July 2012):
 What a wonderful story! All sorts of improbable things happening that you ended up together. Please accept my best wishes for a long and happy life as partners.
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