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writes:I'm a 13 year old girl. The guy I like is 18. I know it sounds bad, but I also know he only jokes around when he's flirting with me. I understand the age difference is rather big and quite frankly it's illegal, but it still bothers me. I've always been attracted to older guys but have stayed single. Recently I realized why guy's go for my friends and not me, it's because I know what they're doing. My friends are so clueless about what the guys intentions are, but I'm very aware of what they want. Sex. Not to sound conceited but I'm in good shape and I'm rather pretty, so it's not like I feel ugly when they don't hit on me. It's just frustrating because I feel like I'm the only single one out of all my friends. So my question is: Do you think I like him because I'm enjoying the intention? Or because I actually like him?Personally I feel like the first answers right, but he's such a sweet guy and I don't want to use him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): Yes I think you probably want attention more than you want this guy. Your gut instinct is probably right.
I must warn you though, your attitude sounds like trouble to me. If you think in generalizations about guys ("I can handle the guys my age, they are immature" or "I can handle the guys XXX years older" etc) then you are setting yourself up to get burned. Maybe you can see through the games better than average for your age but don't get too confident yet. I have known a few guys your own age who are slick and manipulative enough to screw up 16-20yo girls.
Also, what do you think about the 13yo guys who are flirty with younger girls? What do you think of those guys? What do you think of those younger girls? Well from another 18 year old's point of view that is you and your BF. (Yes, it really is. Only even more so.)
Sometimes a little bit of extra maturity and intelligence is just enough to get you even farther over your head.
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reader, silentrose333 +, writes (6 September 2010):
 based on what you've explained, i would say that you like him because you like the attention from him. when guys hit on girls, they tend to leave the girl wanting more, because usually what they say is flattering and makes her feel good. also, you're still young! of course with you're new hormones, you'll fantasize him a lot, and it will cause you to become infatuated. here's a snippit of my life that might help: when i was in 7th grade, the 8th grade boys would hit on me, and i would start to have crushes on them. that was only because i was wondering about sex, and fantasizing about them. their comments made them seem love drunk, and i kept daydreaming about them and myself. dont get caught up in flattery, you don't really like him, you like the fantasy.
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