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writes:Hi - I have been seeing my girlfriend for 18 months. When we first started our relationship we had sex frequently, however, recently we only have it once a week. This is partly due to me working away during the week, however, my girlfriend doesnt really seem bothered about it. It feels as though I am the only one to initiate anything, proven this week by me not coming onto her at all, and she never came onto me either.I try to suggest things like dressing up but she takes the suggestions the wrong way and wont do it. Similarly, she wont perform oral sex on me at all. She used to do every now and then but not any more. During foreplay, I perform oral sex on her every time but the suggestion that she does it back is never taken good, she says she will only do it when she wants to.Any help is much appreciated! Thanks in advance for your help!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (7 September 2010):
 It's just that unwritten rule that you have to give in order to receive..
Hmmm 18 months, your sex life shouldn't be dwindling already. If she's a student stress from school used to kill my sex drive, and also I find if you start that relationship off with sex nonstop it gets old pretty fast. I'm assuming you shave or trim down south? I absolutely refuse to do anything on a wild one, I shave so expect the guy to reciprocate. Has she always been one of those girls who hate doing it? To fix that area, I would stop giving her oral. It goes both ways. The sex part, you can run to the sex shop buy a few toys vibrators. Although she didn't like the idea of costumes and that's the most harmless, however not everyone can role play. I suggest introducing a vibrator to get her to have an awesome orgasm, pop in a decent porn to get her into the mood..Possibly explore sex outside of the bedroom..in the backseat of a car, on the beach, throw a mattress in the bed of your truck drive somewhere secluded and do it under the stars, in a park(at night) etc.
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You can go the romantic route, call the florist and order rose petals. Sprinkle them on your bed, floor around the bed, and in the tub. Run to the store for a nice bottle of wine, tea light candles, and bubble bath. Take a nice bubble bath together, sipping wine, things heat up in the tub, dry each other off and take her into the bedroom where you proceed to make love to her on a bed of roses...You know this one sounds like your best bet!
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